CAUTION – about 25 minutes in there are swears!
Definitely grab some headphones or listen away from sensitive ears today.
I had a truly bizarre experience last week. I watched my own life play out in a documentary about people with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.
What you hear today is the birth of my impossible dream:
It's time to rebrand ADHD.
By the way – I've heard it said that "The difficult is that which takes a little time. The impossible is that which takes a little longer."
THAT'S the sense in which I mean impossible above.
Today's links…
... I was honored to be in my friend Mark McGuinness's Creative Disruption season of his amazing 21st Century Creative podcast this year!
Mark has created a page with the whole season gathered together where you can find all our interviews: https://lateralaction.com/articles/creative-disruption-pandemic/
... I AM HAVING A DANCE-A-THON!!
It's January 1, 2023, it's virtual, and it's going to be a blast!
Find more information and register by clicking this link:
http://kaylockkolp.com/adventures
... Here is the GoFundMe for my trip! https://www.gofundme.com/f/from-wheelchair-to-walking-across-england
... Watch the trailer for the wonderful ADHD documentary The Disruptors – recommended to me by my buddy and friend-of-the-podcast Janine Halloran – by clicking this link: https://disruptorsfilm.com/
Much love to you!
Thank you for being here,
Kay
THANK YOU for your patience… We are a week late with this episode because I've been sick!
I'm better now and I'm here with a story about how I built an electric fence around myself for safety.
How that fence became a prison that kept ME in.
How I have broken myself out.
And how (if this is a trap you're caught in as well) you can break yourself out too!
Here are today's links…
Michael Singer's book (he explains this a lot better there, than I do here : ) The Untethered Soul
Kathryn Nicolai's wonderful mindfulness and mediation podcast: First This
My website: http://kaylockkolp.com
View my art at http://kaylockkolp.com/art … I keep making new stuff and I am learning so much.
See what's new at my Redbubble page – new paintings and they are on fun new things!
Connect with me, http://kaylockkolp.com/contact …
Find me in Instagram, http://instagram.com/weturnedoutokay …
Thank you for being here!
Much love to you -
Kay
This is a special episode. Somewhere fairly early on my guest, amazing middle-school-teacher-turned-connection-coach Elise Knox, decides she's going to go deep.
And she really does!
If you want to hear how someone can transcend the roles they were born into, the expectations others had for them and instead make their own choice about who they are and what they love, you're in the right place.
If you want to hear the story of someone's rise above illness and the other massive challenges they confronted, you are going to LOVE our conversation.
Then stay tuned! After speaking with Elise I share about how I got well and truly lost on a hike recently.
Do you remember that scene in Maverick, Top Gun 2, where he wanders all disoriented into a diner somewhere in the United States? My son and I wandered into a dollar store miles away from where we left our car (weirdly just the day after we watched that movie). I felt exactly like Maverick, so disoriented.
It turns out that training to walk across the north of England isn't just physical training.
It's mindset as well.
Plus I've got an update for you about the upcoming virtual retreat I am cohosting on "Feeling hopeful in challenging times"!
It's the weekend of October 29th and 30th, invitation coming just after this episode drops!
My cohost and I along with 10 other coaches will put our heart and soul into this retreat. It's going to be awesome and very helpful if you feel in flux due to challenges in your life.
There will be no cost to attend and we appreciate donations of any amount to the amazing nonprofit https://onesolutionglobal.org
If this feels like your jam then make sure to mark your calendar!
Here are today's links…
Today's guest Elise Knox's website, http://eliseknox.com
My upcoming walk across the north of England... https://www.gofundme.com/f/from-wheelchair-to-walking-across-england
Kay Walks, the YouTube series I have recently started to share the experience of training for this walk... https://youtube.com/channel/UCqkEbmJ3mTpU2wgZIkNao4Q
My website: http://kaylockkolp.com
My writings page where you can find every 2021 issue of the We Turned Out Okay Playbook… http://kaylockkolp.com/writings
View my art at http://kaylockkolp.com/art … I am making some of my original fine art available for people to purchase : )
Visit this page for more information
Connect with me, http://kaylockkolp.com/contact …
Find me in Instagram, http://instagram.com/weturnedoutokay …
Find me in LinkedIn, https://www.linkedin.com/in/kay-lock-kolp-m-ed-018564130/
Thank you for being here!
Much love to you -
Kay
Today's guest, Katherine Leamy, has been a huge inspiration for me while planning my upcoming walk across the north of England! I am thrilled to bring Katherine to you today.
Her story may sound familiar, giving of herself as a wife, mom, and nurse… and realizing that she wanted to do something for herself. Realizing that in fact it's better for everybody if she does this, plus she really simply wanted to... So Katherine traveled from her home in New Zealand all the way to Croatia! And she's been on many trips since that first one back in 2017.
Our conversation goes deep, way beyond the practical how-to of a solo trip (you can find lots about the practical how-to at Katherine's wonderful website, http://the5kilotraveller.com : )
I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did!
Here are today's links…
Today's guest Katherine Leamy's website, http://the5kilotraveller.com
The link to my story if you'd like to read more about my upcoming walk across the north of England... https://www.gofundme.com/f/from-wheelchair-to-walking-across-england
Kay Walks, the YouTube series I have recently started to share the experience of training for this walk... https://youtube.com/channel/UCqkEbmJ3mTpU2wgZIkNao4Q
My website: http://kaylockkolp.com
My writings page where you can find every 2021 issue of the We Turned Out Okay Playbook… http://kaylockkolp.com/writings
Click the following link for my essay, Orchid Nature,if you need some hope and inspiration at the beginning of this school year… https://www.kaylockkolp.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/08/Orchid-Nature-by-Karen-Lock-Kolp.pdf
View my art at http://kaylockkolp.com/art …
Connect with me, http://kaylockkolp.com/contact …
Find me in Instagram, http://instagram.com/weturnedoutokay …
And keep your eyes peeled for information about the upcoming virtual retreat I am cohosting on "Feeling hopeful in challenging times"
It's the weekend of October 29th and 30th, so spread the word and mark your calendar!
Thank you for being here!
Much love to you -
Kay
I'm glad you are here!
Here's a summary of the steps to creating the life you actually want to live:
1. Pay attention to your self-talk. You get to choose whether you believe it or not.
2. Remember that when people feel good, they do good things. If someone isn't doing a good thing it's because they feel bad.
3. Cultivate feeling good by choosing to… Not the other way around. I.e. it's not "good things happen so I feel good"… It's "when I feel good, good things happen"
4. Ask, how might you cultivate feeling good?
Here's how I do it…
Much love,
Kay
PS As of this month I am retiring my newsletter… After writing it for 7 years I'm understanding that it's not the best place for me to place my creative energy.
I have a huge THANK YOU for those of you who have been a part of the newsletter! Corresponding with you is a joy in my life.
I want to celebrate that in this moment.
I'm celebrating you right now <3
This link will take you to lots of options for connecting with me even after the last issue of my newsletter is published…
Links for today's episode:
21 Ways to Read a Tarot Card
The Adventure Zone
My favorite tarot deck, The Gill Tarot
I'm so excited to share my new website! It's hosted by dear friends of ours, people who babysat our firstborn when he was four months old. It feels so good and streamlined with why I'm building my life right now:
http://kaylockkolp.com
http://kaylockkolp.com/writings for essays, my book Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, and every single 2021 issue of the We Turned Out Okay Playbook
My website's art page is LIVE!! So you can see some of what I am creating : )
Thank you for being here! It means a lot!
A few Program Notes: in the segment AFTER my conversation with David, I share about something sad that happened in our family recently: we said goodbye to our beloved pet chicken, Saphira.
I wanted to let you know here in case the emotions around the loss of loved ones aren't something you'd like to engage with today.
In that case please enjoy my conversation with David Rue and skip this month's post segment.
Also, I apologize for my audio quality... David sounds great, but on my end, not so much! My amazing producer, 25-time Husband of the Year Award Winner Benjamin Kolp, is working on it.
Thank you for being here <3
Once in a while in conversation, I notice something special: everything extraneous falls away, there's a beautiful sense of flow, and I literally lose time.
That's what happened in this conversation with David Rue.
David creates an amazing podcast for children and families, Biddy's Stories. (You can find Biddy here at David's website, or wherever you get your podcasts.)
David has adopted the motto "when you go to sleep laughing, you wake up smiling." He brings wonderful stories into existence. Or as he shares in this conversation, "I let the story see where it wants to go."
The stories are fun for the grown-ups as well as the kids. I can attest to this personally : )
At some point we go way beyond the usual podcast conversation stuff – and into a conversation that's both fun and profound.
I hope you have as much fun listening as we did talking!
Much love,
Kay
PS Here's the story of why I am doing my 2023 Long Walk: https://www.gofundme.com/f/
My website's art page is LIVE!! This means you can see some of what I am creating : )
Or see what's new at
my Redbubble page
Thank you for being here! It means a lot!
"People who feel good do good things. People who feel bad do bad things."
When a friend said this to me recently, it made so much sense.
But if you're not feeling good right now – if you're experiencing feelings of anger, or sadness, or guilt, or frustration over all that's going on in the world (maybe even in your world)… I hope this episode helps you find a way forward.
Much love,
Kay
PS Sign up for my monthly essay and art share (and training update for my 2023 Long Walk) by going to http://kaylockkolp.com/weekly
My website's art page is LIVE!! So you can see some of what I am creating : )
Or see what's new at
my Redbubble page
Thank you for being here! It means a lot!
If you are feeling buffeted by circumstances and kind of stuck, you are going to love this conversation.
In this episode I get to speak with Micaela Levesque, the creator of a giant mural that takes up the whole side of a building in Hartford, Connecticut.
At the time of our conversation it is the biggest thing Micaela's ever made, and we discuss how it came to be.
Its creation included very practical things! Like getting a special license to operate a giant scissor lift, and Michaela's ability to turn her mindset to abundance and think really big : )
Find Micaela at micaelalevesque.com…
Find the pictures – including the one of her beautiful mural – at my Instagram account, @weturnedoutokay…
Sign up for my weekly essay and art share (and training update for my 2023 Long Walk) by going to http://kaylockkolp.com/weekly
My website's art page is LIVE!! So you can see some of what I am creating : )
Or see what's new at
my Redbubble page
Thank you for being here! It means a lot!
Much love,
Kay
This question changed everything for me. I had never thought of my own health and wellness in such a context before! It took some deep work, but the answer that came up in me... whooee! I share about it today.
Sign up for my weekly essay and art share by going to http://kaylockkolp.com/weekly
My website's art page is LIVE!! So you can see some of what I am creating : )
Or see what's new at
my Redbubble page
Thank you for being here! It means a lot!
Much love,
Kay
Today I share the story of a recent injury my Mom sustained… and how in the aftermath the love I feel for her caused me to – very nearly – show up in her life in a tyrannical way.
Not in the loving, caring way that I would wish.
Two questions a friend of mine asked me to think on helped me be in the best energy both for myself, and to be helpful for my Mom.
I hope this one's helpful for you!
Sign up for my weekly essay and art share by going to http://kaylockkolp.com/weekly
My website's art page is still under construction. So for now I invite you to see what I'm working on at Kay to the Tenth, my Redbubble page
Thank you for being here! It means a lot!
Much love,
Kay
Spoiler alert: my word of the year is…
MAGIC
What's yours?
Sign up for my weekly essay and art share by going to http://kaylockkolp.com/weekly…
My website's art page is still under construction. So for now I invite you to see what I'm working on at Kay to the Tenth, my Redbubble page
Thank you for being here! It means a lot!
Much love,
Kay
I was so excited to bring today's guest to you that I completely fail to introduce her at the beginning of the episode!
Let me do that here: Liz Powers is CEO and Chief Happiness Spreader at ArtLifting, the virtual art gallery that champions artists impacted by homelessness and disabilities.
Long before Liz and her brother founded ArtLifting, she worked as an art therapist. She would meet people in the direst of situations and was routinely impressed with their resilience.
If you are looking for a conversation to lift you up and remind you of all the good in the world, this is the one for you.
We recorded only in audio! Something I'm going to keep doing. There's a different feeling when we are not worrying about appearance or facial expressions but instead focusing on conveying important ideas, connecting, and fun.
To see Liz's book art and my first-ever amaryllis art, find me in Instagram @weturnedoutokay…
Find Liz at http://artlifting.com
or in all the socials @artlifting
Sign up for my weekly essay and art share by going to http://kaylockkolp.com/weekly…
My website's art page is still under construction. So for now I invite you to see what I'm working on at Kay to the Tenth, my redbubble page
Thank you for being here! It means a lot!
Kay
Something exciting is happening!
Today I share about what's changing, and what's staying the same.
Thank you for being on this journey with me <3 <3
K
I've been super excited to bring you this conversation!
We recorded back in late summer, and here is a testament to the power of this conversation: just this morning I was speaking to my teen, and remembering today's guest, Shane Trotter, telling about research on drug addiction. This research was called the "rat playground," in which the positive societies that the rats lived in during the research made it easy for them to turn away from the powerful drugs – like cocaine – that were available 24/7 in the playground.
If you need some hope that things will be okay, THIS is your conversation.
As a young adult, Shane developed a kind of obsessive-compulsive disorder called Pino OCD. And like me with my tendon challenges over the last decade, Shane has found this to be as much a gift as anything else. He wouldn't be who he is today without Pino OCD.
Shane has written a great book, Setting the Bar, which is out just this week and which I know you're going to love. We discuss Setting the Bar, so you'll get a flavor for it.
There's so much else in here to love. I am excited to share a conversation that I personally found enlightening, inspiring, and so much fun!
Join us!
Key Links…
– Find Shane at trottershane.com
– My conversation with coach Andrew Moss from episode 374 comes up today… Listen here
– My first book, Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, comes up in our conversation… Get the book here: http://amzn.to/1WE8DOA
– The hilarious and wonderful improv show, Whose Line Is It Anyway?, comes up in our conversation
– We talk about my friend and frequent WTOO guest Janine Halloran today, find Janine at janinehalloran.com
Greetings! I am excited to bring you a fun and provocative conversation on play today with friend and colleague Zovig Garboushian.
Our conversation ranges over art installations in two of our favorite cities; what fun really is; and how play helps us get a larger picture of our lives and ourselves…
Zovig has helped me through some pretty challenging places in my own life. Connect with her by going to http://boldnessablazecoaching.
More links just below. Join us!
Key Links…
Find Zovig at http://
Click the following link to read about The Gates, an amazing art installation in New York City…https://en.wikipedia.org/
Click the following link to read about The Net, an amazing art installation in Boston…https://www.wbur.org/
Click the following link for episode 264, my conversation with Blake Boles…https://weturnedoutokay.
Because my website is busted – click here to find out more about that, https://bit.ly/
Click https://bit.ly/K2essays to sign up for my free weekly essays delivered right into your inbox with gratitude, and zero spam
Exciting news! I am giving away my formerly-subscription-only We Turned Out Okay Playbook digital copy, each and every month starting now throughout 2022, to everyone who is signed up for my essays!
That's a $50 value – as my friend Andres says, "that's no Netflix subscription, that's an investment" – and you can get it free each and every month.
Click here (https://bit.ly/
The two links are clunky I know, but necessary with the busted website.
Find the podcast and every back episode in these places, or wherever you get podcasts…
Apple Podcasts… http://bit.ly/WTOOApple
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Stitcher Podcasts… http://bit.ly/WTOOStitcher
With Love,
K
If you're in a place that feels not of your choosing, where the daily grind is pulling you down and it feels like there are no good choices, I'm glad you are here because this conversation will help.
Today I bring you a conversation with amazing coach Andrew Moss, who – as you'll hear – went on a journey of discovery a number of years ago that started with an old friend asking him the question "How do you want your kids to remember you?"
It was a difficult time in Andrew's life, and this question set him on a trajectory full of joy, gratitude, and kindness. Once Andrew understood the implications of that question, he set out to remake his life with purpose.
I hope today's conversation inspires you and gives you some practical ways to get where you want to go… Join us!
Key Links:
See what Andrew is up to at his website, coachandrewmoss.com … It's got a very fun innovation, The Everything Button : )
Click here for Simon Sinek's podcast episode with guest Matthew Barzun, who's written a wonderful book called The Power of Giving Away Power
Because my website is busted – click here to find out more about that – I'm not posting show notes there…
Click here for this episode in YouTube
Click here to sign up for my free weekly essays delivered right into your inbox with gratitude, and zero spam
BTW I am giving away my formerly-subscription-only We Turned Out Okay Playbook digital copy, each and every month starting now throughout 2022, to everyone who is signed up for my essays!
That's a $50 value – as my friend Andres says, "that's no Netflix subscription, that's an investment" – and you can get it free each and every month. Click here to learn more, and click here to sign up.… (The two links are clunky I know, but necessary with the busted website.)
Find the podcast and every back episode in these places, or wherever you get podcasts…
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Stitcher Podcasts… http://bit.ly/WTOOStitcher
Cheers!,
Greetings! For the second in our Roundtable series with Marilyn Dollar, ClaireYvonne Nesbitt, and Tom Lancaster, we're bringing you favorite quotes, and a beautiful poem written by ClaireYvonne!
Hope you enjoy this episode – and feel as inspired – as I do!
Cheers –
Karen (or Kay, as these folks know and refer to me)
PS Instead of episode notes on the web, click here to read about my busted website and what will happen now that I've made the decision to move!
Key Links…
Find ClaireYvonne Nesbitt at https://www.linkedin.com/in/
Find Tom Lancaster at http://altitudeevolution.
Find Marilyn Dollar at https://thewomanscoach.com/
Greetings! In reality the title of this episode is but one tiny part of the whole, because I get to bring you a roundtable today!
Click play to hear my conversation with three world-class coaches. Three amazing people, Tom Lancaster, Marilyn Dollar, and ClaireYvonne Nesbitt, who have each inspired me to become the best version of myself I can possibly be, simply with their presence and their sharing of thoughts – and in one case poetry (coming up in the next episode!)
The title of this episode feels especially relevant as I write these notes, after spending some time camping.
Out in nature, but with other humans – and their generators and loud music – which, if I let it, could have truly spoiled camping experience. (I'll write more on my camping experience, including the 48 hours I spent solo camping all by my onesies!, in an upcoming free newsletter-essay, which you can sign up for here: https://bit.ly/K2essays .)
For now, sit back and enjoy an amazing conversation. I hope that hearing from these three superb coaches helps you as much as it helped me!
Cheers!
Karen (or Kay, as these folks know and refer to me)
PS Instead of episode notes on the web, click here to read about my busted website and what will happen now that I've made the decision to move!
Key Links…
Find ClaireYvonne Nesbitt at https://www.linkedin.com/in/
Find Tom Lancaster at http://altitudeevolution.
Find Marilyn Dollar at https://thewomanscoach.com/
Click here for the book You Can't Say You Can't Play
Click here for information on David Taylor Klaus
Listen to Tom Lancaster's conversation with our fellow coach Bhavik Patel by clicking here.
Click here for The Lion Tracker's Guide to Life by Boyd Varty
Click here for information on Henry Rollins and the Black Flag Band
Click here for Kavita M. Ramdass' quote on "Women who…"
Click here for the video on how 6 portrait photographers' expectations shaped their final portraits, even more so than their subject
Thanks for listening/watching! I'm glad you are here
I'm thrilled to bring you this conversation with world-class coach Mike Harris!
(FYI: There is some mild adult language in here, so maybe listen away from sensitive ears or use ear buds : )
Mike is currently writing a book on the value he holds most dear, freedom.
He's a deep thinker who understands the importance of irreverence – in fact I almost called today's episode after something Mike says in our conversation:
"There is a certain irreverence in having choice."
He brings playful energy, a fascinating life journey that brought him where he is today, and at heart a vision for how we can all enjoy the pants off of our lives!
Here are some other mic drops you'll hear Mike share:
"The world is skewed toward a linear expression of how things are supposed to go."
"What if play weren't a reward in a transaction?"
"What if we lived our entire lives in the value of freedom?"
It's so good!
A couple notes:
1. This was originally supposed to be two episodes… I chose to keep the tape running, instead bringing you one longer one. If the ideas are flying at you fast and furious, and you need to pause and come back, I wanted to give you the choice of when and how to do that. But I bet that you, like me, will dive in and this time will go so quickly!
2. Fellow world-class coach Marilyn Dollar was planning to join us but there was a technological snafu… You'll hear us talk about her, and while she doesn't make it into today's conversation she will be coming on the show. So stay tuned : )
I hope you love this conversation as much as I did!
Here are the links that come up in today's episode:
Mike's home-on-the-web, MikeFHarris.com
Books that have had a huge influence on Mike:
Crazy Good by Steve Chandler
Tao Te Ching
Books that have had a huge influence on me:
The Courage to Heal
The Jeeves and Wooster books by PG Woodhouse (I cite one in this conversation, The Jeeves Omnibus. But they're all amazing)
Office Space, the movie
100 Truths You Will Learn Too Late, an amazing book
Cory Wong, the awesome song by Vulfpeck featuring guitarist Cory Wong
Episode 363, my conversation with Washington Post Parent Columnist Meghan Leahey
Episode 48, my conversation with author and poet Daniel Wolff
This episode's home on the web: weturnedoutokay.com/371
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Maybe it's not quite true, the title of this episode.
Maybe today's value isn't quite as all-encompassing as that makes it sound.
But it sure comes close for me.
We started this series back in episode one with a question, and I want to wrap up in the same way.
Today's is: If there was only one thing that we needed, what would it be?
Thank you so much for listening!
This has been an exercise in vulnerability for me, sharing these values with you. It means SO much – more than you will ever know – to have you along for this ride.
I am full of love and appreciation for you, in this moment and always <3
Karen
PS I have an invitation for you: if you haven't already, get to know me a little better by signing up for my weekly newsletter.
It's free, and I promise to hold your email address – and thus your heart – safely, in both my hands…
Go to https://weturnedoutokay.
This episode's home-on-the-web: https://
The link to the fourth episode in this series (this is the fifth, and final)… https://
Click https://weturnedoutokay.
Listen to We Turned Out Okay in your favorite podcatcher!
Here are a few choice spots:
Apple Podcasts... http://bit.ly/
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If I know you – and if you're a longtime listener – I bet you saw the words "not play" and immediately said "D'oh! Where Karen is concerned, play is always a thing!"
But not today.
No, today's value eats play for breakfast.
Thank you so much for listening! I am glad you're here <3
Karen
PS I have an invitation for you: if you haven't already, get to know me a little better by signing up for my weekly newsletter.
It's free, and I promise to hold your email address – and thus your heart – safely, in both my hands…
Go to https://weturnedoutokay.
This episode's home-on-the-web: https://
The link to the third episode in this series (this is the fourth)… https://
Click here for the Mindfulness Coach app by the American Veterans Administration. It's AMAZING.
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