Greetings! In today's episode we examine the process of getting what our heart longs for, in a coaching conversation with one of my 1-to-1 coaching clients!
As you'll hear, Regan is a mom and an attorney, currently (along with her husband) working from home while their children are home as well, in in virtual/hybrid school.
Regan gets courageous and vulnerable with us today. She shares the dream of her heart for her kids… and what she's doing each and every day to help make that dream come true.
In our conversation you'll learn:
– How to get your heart's desire
– The importance of big dreams and tiny action steps
– Making both your superpower AND the dark side of that superpower work for you in achieving your dreams
Lately I've been asking coaching clients "what makes my coaching magical?" (You'll hear Regan and I talk about this in this episode.)
The answers I'm getting back are fascinating – it turns out that something I'm really good at is helping parents stop treading the conventional path and do what works for THEM, and their family.
We all have dreams. What are you doing to make yours reality?
If you're ready to go on the adventure of your life with me as your guide, write me, and let's talk!
Plus… This is a digest episode, so in addition to our conversation I'm bringing you a story that I recently sent to the folks in my free email newsgroup! Click this link to get weekly letters like this delivered right to your inbox: weturnedoutokay.com/weekly
I share about the "Parents Working from Home" free virtual summit that I'm honored to be included in (happening this coming Saturday 2/27, 10 AM to 1 PM EST).
And, I give you an update on a new segment of this podcast: it's called Triumphs and Misdemeanors, and I hope you will be a part of it!
Click here for psychologist – and friend-of-the-podcast – Shannon Connery's recent episode of her Fix Yourself podcast, in which she talks about energy level and a way to think of it that's been really helpful for me recently. Maybe it will be helpful for you, too!
Click here for the weekly planner that Regan and I discuss in this episode. The planner was once exclusively for people in my Ninja Parenting Community, but I am sharing it here with you today in hopes that it will help you to see your entire week in one half sheet piece of printer paper. Enjoy!
Click here to sign up for the free Parenting While Working from Home Virtual Summit taking place Saturday February 27 from 10 AM to 1 PM EST. (Also I'll be stopping by the Facebook group associated with the Virtual Summit between noon and 1 PM EST. Maybe I'll see you there!)
Click here to read the story that I share today in the latter part of this episode, called "What my Italian relatives know about the off-season."
(This is also where you can see the picture I mention in today's episode, me in Venice in 1992, wearing *quite* a sweater : )
Click the following link to view the show notes from today's episode on my website: weturnedoutokay.com/357
Get my best advice for handling the challenges that come up on your parenting journey, through the We Turned Out Okay podcast:
Listen in your favorite podcatcher!
Due to the content of our conversation, today's episode is going to be a good one to listen AWAY from sensitive ears… I think you're going to love today's conversation, I know I did! But some topics may be a little intense for, well, littles.
Greetings! I am super excited to bring today's guest to you, educator and parent coach Sarah Scheldt, M.Ed.!
In today's conversation I'll introduce you to Sarah, so you can come to know her and the incredibly helpful, giving person she is.
Today Sarah discusses:
- How to handle your kids' toughest days and biggest feelings
- How to take care of yourself in the midst of everything going on in your life
- Handling when we do push ourselves too far
Early on in the pandemic Sarah wanted to reach parents outside of her classroom of kids. So she created an amazing free Virtual Summit on "empowering kids." I felt so honored to be included in the expert speakers for that summit!
Sarah's second free online series, Kids' Healthy Bodies, starts on February 15!
(Yay! Click here to sign up!)
In our conversation today Sarah shares on how this upcoming free Virtual Summit will help you get a handle on talking to kids about potentially tough topics like their own bodies, sex, consent, and stopping child sexual abuse.
I'm honored to be a part of this series as well, talking about what to do if you have been the victim of sexual abuse… and you are now raising kids.
There will be experts on all kinds of topics around children and their healthy bodies, so be sure to sign up!
I know you're going to love today's conversation… If you'd like to see us visually, in addition to listening, you can find the video for this conversation by clicking https://weturnedoutokay.com/356
I hope you find our talk super helpful!
Links from today's conversation:
Click here to sign up for Sarah Scheldt's upcoming Free Virtual Summit on Kids' Healthy Bodies – I'm one of the expert speakers, so I know how awesome this series is going to be.
Click here for the Yo-Yo Ma documentary, Distant Echoes, on the time that Ma spent with the Bush People of the Kalahari Desert, learning how they make music – and meaning.
Greetings! Today I've got five ways that parents I work closely with are keeping going…
Because even though we can see some hope on the horizon, circumstances on the ground are, shall we say, not ideal.
So if you need a little help getting good behavior from your kids, feeling seen and heard and cared for in your life, or feeling happy inside, here are five ways you may not have considered yet to accomplish those tasks.…
Plus the Parenting News Segment returns today, with reports on how to not use social-emotional learning for evil, and also something called "toxic positivity."
Here are the links that come up today:
This episode's home-on-the-web is weturnedoutokay.com/355
In the first few minutes of today's show I share (a little bit) about my experience of being sexually abused when I was seven years old. This comes up in my first book, Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, in the chapter called How to Help if Something's Wrong; you can buy the book by clicking here
I share about being hospitalized with diverticulitis last fall in episode 349: Kindergarten Evals, Parent-Teacher-Conferences, and Lessons I learned from being hospitalized last week, weturnedoutokay.com/349
Beloved Ninja Parenting Community alum Jen came on the show in summer 2019 to talk about how she got control over the direction her family is going: weturnedoutokay.com/288
In episode 300 of We Turned Out Okay, two amazing and close friends of mine, licensed mental health counselor Janine Halloran and veteran preschool teacher Tricia Tomaso came on the show, and unbeknownst to each other (or me) they both brought the same topic: Social Emotional Learning… Weturnedoutokay.com/300
Speaking of Janine Halloran, she's going to be an expert speaker in the Parenting in Place Masterclass Series this winter! Register for this awesome series by going to parentinginplacemasterclass.com
Today I share that I am planning a new segment of the show… that it's going to include input from our wonderful listeners… and the first people who will know about it are those who get my free weekly newsletters!
Find out what's up by subscribing for these newsletters yourself: weturnedoutokay.com/weekly
If you want to start getting my free weekly newsletters AND you've got reluctant or unhappy readers at home, sign up for my free Guide to Creating Happy Readers at weturnedoutokay.com/readers
Thank you for listening and reading! You rock!
Greetings and best wishes for 2021!! This is my annual goals and sharing of the Word of the Year. (Last year's: ENOUGH. I apparently was really prescient in January 2020... This year's: EXHILARATED. Should be fun!)
As with everything in the pandemic, it's different from other New Year's episodes that have come before. But I hope it's helpful for you as you create a good life, and a good year, for your family and yourself.
Some of my goals last year I completely, epically failed at bringing about.
Some of them I did a little bit better with.
One of the most important things I learned was to make a goal be "a place to come from," rather than something to work towards. Seriously, this has been a huge game-changer for me.
I share about that process and give you ideas for trying it out yourself today.
Finally I read you one of my most recent newsletters, "Hello 2021! Please be kind to us."
You can get these newsletters delivered for free right into your inbox just by signing up for one of my free guides available at weturnedoutokay.com… Or go to weturnedoutokay.com/weekly
Click weturnedoutokay.com/312 for last year, January 2020's Goals and One Word episode. Listening back I was such a pre-pandemic naïve little baby then! I've grown a lot in 2020. I bet you have too. Ultimately this is a good thing, I think. We are such badasses now!
Click here for a book I am loving, 100 Truths You Will Learn Too Late by Luca Dellanna
Click weturnedoutokay.com/books to see the parenting books I have written
Click here for my most recent newsletter, "Hello 2021! Please be kind to us."
Click weturnedoutokay.com/354 to watch the video of today's episode.
Cheers! I hope 2021 is REALLY kind to you <3
Hi friends! This is a bonus episode that I recorded to help you in the wake of January 6, 2021's storming of the United States Capitol Building by domestic terrorists, or (as you'll hear in today's episode) people that featured WTOO guest and NYT best-selling author Joshilyn Jackson calls "known jackasses."
I want to give you some resources to help you remain calm – because that is what your kiddo needs from you today.
I am more grateful than I can say that you are listening, I can almost feel us holding hands and standing together today…
I will have links posted (at weturnedoutokay.com/353-5) ASAP, but for now I just want you to be able to hear my words and know that you can remain calm, for your child and for yourself. No matter what is going on in your world, or in the wider world.
And I am here with you.
Greetings! I've got a whole slew of awesome questions for you today (you can read the questions in their entirety just below : )
Here are the Key Links that come up in today's episode, located at weturnedoutokay.com/353
You should go to that link above if you would like to see the video of this episode (instead of just listening in audio)…
Cheers and thanks for listening!
Links that come up today:
My free guide to raising happy readers: weturnedoutokay.com/readers
If you'd like to get useful tools and parenting ideas in your inbox each week, without the guide to happy readers: weturnedoutokay.com/weekly
Click here for one of the many wonderful Elephant and Piggy books by Mo Willems
Click here for a book that your family might enjoy with new readers, You Read to Me, I'll Read to You
How NOT to teach your child to ride a bike: https://weturnedoutokay.com/092-how-to-teach-your-young-child-to-ride-a-bike/
Click the following link for one of the very early episodes I did, about how kids develop grit:
Click the following link for my conversation with Amy Anderson, about how to know if your young child is consenting:
Click the following link for my conversation with Carey Andersen, sharing her story of her child's nonconsent to a bad kindergarten situation and what they did about it:
Click the following link for my conversation with Debbie Reber of the TiLT Parenting Podcast:
Okay, just below are the questions!
Thanks for reading and listening! Cheers!
Tish: What do I say to my 6 year old who can't seem to keep his hands out of his pants?
So we are in survival mode but going to make the most of the holidays!
[Karen:] FYI I have discovered some biases in myself, and as a result I'm going to do some more research into this whole issue – meds, ADD, ADHD, coping mechanisms both for kids and parents. This deserves at least an episode, and possibly a series. Stay tuned <3
Jen: My daughter, age 8 already, wants to ride a bicycle again. She had a typical bike fall a year ago (a scrape on the knee, just a run of the mill slow-speed fall that comes from learning how to balance) and has been avoiding the bike ever since. Typical for her high anxiety. She tells me she's afraid of falling again and she wants to ride on the school running track, which we did one time when she was 5, before we knew it wasn't allowed. She is also concerned that the training wheels send an unpleasant rumble into her body when she rides on asphalt. Uneven pavement or rocks or sticks make her afraid of falling. My concerns are the school rule, and driving 15 minutes or less. Our rural home has no paved areas at all, and so any riding involves packing up the car and driving to a safe place. But every time we talk about biking, and try to work out where we might go, she gets frustrated that nothing meets her criteria. We simply can't use the running track. She understands that intellectually, and she isn't asking me to break the rule. She's hoping, I guess, that I have some amazing cushiony place where she can fall without risk of hurting herself. Since I don't, she gets frustrated and cries that she'll never be able to ride a bike. She wants to get good enough to remove the training wheels, because she sees her 6yo sister without training wheels having a ball, and she doesn't want the unpleasant rumble that comes with leaning onto the training wheels. I'm at a loss here. How can I support her desire to practice, when the practice itself is too scary for her?
Thanks so much for all of your support this year! I have high hopes for your 2021 :)
Q: "Perhaps we should be instilling resilience by still expecting them to try their best. Because being emotionally healthy and trying one’s best are not mutually exclusive during Covid."
Today I am so thrilled to share this conversation with a returning champion – Erik Wagter – and his wife, author Sally Wagter.
Together Sally and Erik are raising a family, and their older son has autism. (My conversation with Erik, way back in episode 75, is located here.
In fact when their son was young Erik and Sally were told "he will never live a normal life" because his autism would prevent him from using language meaningfully or even making meaningful connections with anyone.
Thank goodness, Sally and Erik refused to believe that. They charted a different path for their family. Now their son has gone far beyond anyone's expectations, playing music beautifully, enjoying deep and meaningful friendships, and living a truly examined and thoughtful life.
Sally has written a book about her experience raising their son, called Miracle in Slow Motion. You can find the link to this book, as well as Erik and Sally's podcast, at releasingmychildspotential.com.
We talk about all this and more in today's conversation, even diving into one of my favorite topics, the toll raising children takes on parents (whether kids are typical or diagnosed with special needs).
It's part of a digest episode, so you'll hear our wonderful conversation and then I will read you a recent newsletter that I wrote called "Changing bras," which looks the toll parenting takes on us from a slightly different angle (Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to get newsletters like this delivered into your inbox each week : )
Find this post, and the links we discuss, in your browser by going to weturnedoutokay.com/352
If you're interested in subscribing to the We Turned Out Okay Playbook, which I share about during today's episode, go to weturnedoutokay.com/playbook
I hope you enjoy this episode!
Enrollment is OPEN for the 2021 Year of Empowerment!
Enroll now to save 33% on your Year of Empowerment:
This special ends New Year's Eve, December 31 2020 at 11:59 PM EST. Don’t miss your chance to empower 2021 for you and your family.
Details at weturnedoutokay.com/empowerment : )
"In 25 years, what will matter to me?" When Katherine Reynolds Lewis, author of the outstanding book The Good News About Bad Behavior and today's guest, shared this question during our conversation, I knew it had to be the title of the episode.
It encompasses all the most important ideas that Katherine brings. The ones that keep reminding me about what's most important. It's not grades, or how perfectly our kids sit during online schooling. It's not the world's cleanest house, or how perfectly we manage our home.
The most important thing – the thing that will matter most even 25 years from now – is the connection and the relationship that we have with our loved ones.
Today's conversation is so full of connection, and love, and hope.
It's part of a digest episode, so you'll hear our wonderful conversation and then I will read you a recent newsletter that I wrote called "Kind words." (Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to get newsletters like this delivered into your inbox each week : )
I hope you enjoy this episode!
PS you can watch our conversation (instead of just listening) by going to weturnedoutokay.com/351…
Hello! So quickie bonus episode with me are never as quickie as I imagine they would be, but this one will hopefully be informative for you!
In it, I share about the only group coaching I'm offering in 2021.
As a child development expert and parent coach I have given lots of thought on what I could offer that will have the most impact on the well-being of you, and your family, over the coming year.
I've come up with something exciting!
It's called the 2021 Year of Empowerment Program, and it will help you:
– feel in charge of your destiny and your family's direction
– know that you are making the right decisions for you and your family
– live your best life and model that for your kids.
Enrolling means you will spend 2021:
– Getting good behavior from your children
– Advocating for them, helping them love learning and get the best education possible, no matter how bad all of this feels right now
– Feeling good about getting the self-care time that you need and deserve
I expect that spots will fill up quickly, as there are only 20 to begin with and especially with the Black Friday special I'm offering, 50% off the cost of the program!
To get notified when enrollment opens go to:
If you've got any questions email me, Karen (at) weturnedoutokay (dot) com.
Thanks for reading/listening and Cheers!
Click the link below to learn more about the 2021 Year of Empowerment:
Click the link below to get notified when enrollment opens:
Here are the FAQs in written form:
FAQs about the 2021 Year of Empowerment Program
– What is the age range for people's kids in the program?
Parents with kids in all ages and stages of childhood, from babies and toddlers on up to teens, are welcome.
The issues that parents are confronting have kind of converged since the onset of the pandemic.
There are no conventions anymore. Everything is unprecedented. Parents with children of every age are feeling this seismic shift.
As a result the Year of Empowerment will be a great, supportive community for parents with kids of all ages. It will help you build the life that you really want within your family.
– How will this program work?
The 2021 Year of Empowerment Program has two main facets:
1. Each month of 2021 we will have a group coaching conversation, a powerful, in-depth, 90 minute call diving into the different aspects of empowerment including advocating for your kids, establishing boundaries so you only ever do what feels truly good for you, and modeling a wonderful and empowering life for your family.
2. A year’s subscription to the acclaimed We Turned Out Okay Playbook!
The Playbook provides a place for you to envision and build out your life and your family’s future.
The 2021 Year of Empowerment program includes a whole year – 12 issues – of the Playbook, one each month, delivered directly to your mailbox! (US only; internationally you’ll receive the digital version of the Playbook.)
Each month you’ll receive this top-shelf publication that shapes your thinking in a very positive and gratitude-centered way.
(Learn more about the Playbook at https://weturnedoutokay.com/playbook)
Between our monthly calls and the daily, positive and creative thinking opportunities the Playbook offers, the 2021 Year of Empowerment Program gives you extremely powerful tools to shape your life how you want it.
– What if I can't make a meeting?
That is absolutely fine… You can be committed and still not be able to get to every single meeting over the course of a whole year.
So, each monthly meeting and the PDF of each month's We Turned Out Okay Playbook will be placed in the password-protected 2021 Year of Empowerment Resource Hub.
That way, you'll be able to go back and watch meetings as often as you like, and you'll have PDFs of each Playbook as they come out.
Any resources such as worksheets, notes, or links will also be placed in the resource hub, where you will have access to everything for the duration of the program.
– What days and times will the meetings be?
I want this program to work for you, wherever you live and whatever your time zone. As a result this is a crucial question, something very important to get right.
In designing the program I am thinking either Saturday afternoons like 3 PM EST, or a weeknight with a very late EST start time, say, 10 PM, is where we will end up, perhaps even alternating months between these time periods.
I really want to make it work for those of you who are considering making this commitment.
Therefore I would love your feedback! What meeting times would work best for you? Just hit reply to this email and let me know.
– What technology will be necessary? Will it be complex?
Not at all, we're using basic, easy tech in the Year of Empowerment Program.
You'll need only your email, your web browser, and Zoom (which we'll use for our monthly meetings.)
Speaking as someone whose twitter name used to be StoneAgeTechie, I know the pain of complicated tech!
I want to make this easily accessible for everyone who joins.
– Will I be able to access the 2021 Year of Empowerment Program on my phone or tablet?
Absolutely : ) It will be a mobile-friendly program, and of course will also be accessible on your laptop or desktop computer.
– Will there be the choice of a payment plan?
Yes, you'll have the option to pay either in full, or in three installments. I'll share the details on Monday 11/23 when I open enrollment in the Program.
– Will there be refunds?
The 2021 Year of Empowerment Program is for folks who are truly committed to building a great future for themselves and their family.There are no refunds.It will be worth every penny.
– Are there any prerequisites to the Year of Empowerment Program?
You do not have to have been in any program of mine before, whether workshops, courses, or the Ninja Parenting Community.
The only prerequisites are your positive energy and your commitment to building the future that you want for your family.
I anticipate that spots will go fast.
Especially with the Black Friday special – normally the Program costs $3000, but if you join by Cyber Monday, November 30, 2020 you can join for half that, just $1500!
Here are some quickie facts about the program:
Enrollment will open this coming Wednesday 11/25/20, and when it does I will send an email to everyone who is in my email group sharing details and the link to enroll.… Click the link below to join the email group
In the meantime I hope you have a lovely weekend. Cheers and thanks for reading/listening <3
There are just 20 spots available in my 2021 Year of Empowerment coaching program for parents… Don't miss your chance to join this powerful program!
Be notified when I open enrollment for the 2021 Year of Empowerment Program (enrollment begins 11/23!) by clicking the link below:
I am super excited to bring you today's episode, which includes so much good that my heart is practically bursting : )
It's a digest episode, and the first part is my conversation with Debbie Reber, founder of the TiLT Parenting Podcast, http://tiltparenting.com, and author of one of my favorite books, Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World.
Somewhere in the first few minutes we decide to depart from a kind of standard interview, Q&A sort of conversation and dive into something much better and more fun!
Here are some of Debbie's ideas that felt so transformative for me:
– "I love that you mention taking care of your body…" Debbie goes on to share how important this idea is, and how often we truly do forget.
(My forgetting, as I share today, landed me in the hospital just a few weeks before our conversation.)
– "Asking "What if I had no agenda at all?""… Debbie brings this up in reference to children and learning. If we don't have an agenda, we are free to just be in the moment and enjoying the time with our children. And more – if we don't have an agenda we are free to allow our kids on a voyage of self-discovery. This is crucial, even more so with the world turned upside down from the pandemic.
– "I have permission to do whatever I want and feel whatever I feel."… Debbie shares this as a way of diffusing judgment. Giving ourselves this permission is so freeing.
I hope this conversation is transformational for you, too!
In Part 2 I read an essay I wrote recently, called "A hard decision I have made."
It shares about the decision I recently made to close my Ninja Parenting Community – and after I read it, I share about something I'm truly excited about, the group coaching program I'm offering for 2021 called "The Year of Empowerment."
2021: The Year of Empowerment Program:
… Helps you combat the challenge of others walking all over you, so you feel in charge of your destiny and your family's direction.
… Helps you overcome your fears about your child's behavior and others'' judgment of that behavior or your parenting. So you know that you are making the right decisions for you and your family.
… Helps you stop feeling guilty or unworthy so you can live your best life and model that for your kids.
Each month of 2021 you'll be empowered to truly take the reins in your family life.
You will know how to get good behavior from your child.
You will know how to advocate for them, to help them love learning and get the best education possible – no matter how bad all of this feels right now.
You will know how to feel good about getting the self-care time you need and deserve.
How will this program work?
1. Each month of 2021 we will have a group coaching conversation, a powerful, in-depth, 90 minute call diving into the different aspects of empowerment including:
– The setting of proper boundaries to eliminate toxic people from your life
– Learning to say "no," so you only participate in and do what feels truly good for you
– Advocating for your child
– Learning the tenets of positive discipline, so your child does not walk all over you anymore
– Teaching your child about the world
– Living a truly wonderful and empowering life
– Consequently modeling "how to live a truly wonderful and empowering life" for your family
2. A year's subscription to the acclaimed We Turned Out Okay Playbook!
The We Turned Out Okay Playbook provides a place for you to envision and build out your life and your family's future.
The 2021 Year of Empowerment program includes a whole year – 12 issues – of the Playbook, one each month, delivered directly to your mailbox!
Each month you'll receive the Playbook, my top-shelf publication that shapes your thinking in a very positive and gratitude-centered way.
(Learn more about the Playbook at:
Between our monthly calls and the daily, positive and creative thinking opportunities the Playbook offers, you have extremely powerful tools to shape your life how you want it.
Cost and How to Enroll:
The program costs $3000 for the year 2021.
There are just 20 spots available.
I'm offering a Black Friday special: 50% off!
Just $1500 instead of the usual $3000!
I'm opening up enrollment in the 2021 Year of Empowerment on Monday 11/23/20…
Click the link below and sign up to get notified when enrollment begins!
And thanks for listening/reading!
Karen Lock Kolp, M.Ed.
Creator and Founder of https://weturnedoutokay.com
View this post, video of our conversation, and all notes and links in your browser by clicking the link below:
As a child development expert one of the most important jobs I have is to give parents permission to disagree with teachers or other authority figures in their children's lives.
Starting at around the 50-minute mark we talk about that. It's coming up for many podcast listeners and Ninja Parents right now, and it's important to discuss!
But first, I share three super important lessons that I learned the hard way recently, by ending up in the hospital with diverticulitis. It's the illness I had nine years ago that brought on the tendon condition that I lived with ever since, so there was some serious PTSD in getting it again!
It was no accident that I got it now, in the pandemic with pressure mounting societally, in our home, and with the families I serve.
I got it by failing to adhere to these lessons, which I will list for you right now:
1. On the Human-Dehumanized Axis, stay close to the Human side.
Maybe it means unplugging, but it definitely means connecting more on a human level.
Be sure that, when connecting with folks having to do with your child, that they are very human too.
2. Remember that sugar is an inflammatory food.
What we need is good nutrition! I'm a living example of what happens when you don't get that.
3. Understand your own worth.
How you think about yourself matters. I forgot that, and had to undergo a very painful and scary illness as a result.
Most of all, in thinking about these three lessons I want you to think about where you are "coming from" with regard to them.
This isn't about me telling you "here's a list of stuff you need to do."
It's about coming from a place of human connection.
It's about coming from a place of good nutrition, most of the time, without worry or pressure.
It's about coming from a place of feeling worthy – both for ourselves, and for what we model for our children.
Here are the links that come up in today's conversation:
I am a featured speaker in the Virtual Summit, which you can enjoy for free by clicking here:
Click here for episode 279, my conversation with picky eating coach Jacky Lemenzo
For the first time since creating the We Turned Out Okay Playbook, as a result of my hospitalization I'm doing it myself (instead of just writing it for others)!
Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/playbook to learn more about the Playbook!
Click here for episode 270, my conversation with creative coach Dan Blank.
Thank you for being along on this journey with me! You rock!
Cheers! And thanks for listening/reading to this, episode 349, which you can view on the web by going to:
Karen Lock Kolp, M.Ed.
Creator and Founder of https://weturnedoutokay.com
I’m so excited to bring you returning champions Evie Granville and Sarah Davis of Modern Manners for Moms and Dads today!
You’ll learn why the kind of parent that we are matters, especially right now… and you’ll hear how these two wonderful educators take my very cynical Roundtable question and turn it around. You’ll also hear their awesome Roundtable questions for us all to discuss – one pertains to the election, and so I felt I had to publish this episode today, so you’ve got a couple weeks to listen!
Evie and Sarah brought me onto their show in early March 2020, just before the pandemic changed everything. If you listen to that episode, you’ll notice that I identify myself as one kind of parent (what Evie and Sarah would now call a Crescent-style parent)… When I bring them onto my show in episode 340, just a few months later – but after our world has completely changed – my parenting style has completely changed too. I’ve become a Constellation-style parent. For all the wrong reasons!
In the interview portion of today’s episode, I share about my current parenting style, a perfect split between Crescent and Constellation, and how I’ve made my peace with that.
We also talk about their new book! It’s called Modern Manners for Moms and Dads, and you can download the first chapter for free by clicking here: http://evieandsarah.com/book!
Did you notice, I referred to the “interview portion” of today’s episode?
That’s because as I have moved into publishing every other week, it’s opened up really interesting and cool opportunities for making the show just a little different.
We still talk about the same important things. It’s still all about helping you feel cared for, no matter what your circumstances are.
I’m just doing that in different ways that never presented themselves when I released an episode every week.
So for the first half hour or so, I share things like the Parenting News (a REALLY good one today) and some things I’m offering, like
– this week’s Free Live Training on handling worries in a playful way (it’s this coming Friday 10/23/20, sign up here: https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly)
– the sweet, 3-months-for-the-rate-of-2 deal I’m offering on the We Turned Out Okay Playbook (https://weturnedoutokay.com/playbook)
– how much you’re enjoying the powerful, even magical private coaching calls so many of you have scheduled with me (schedule yours by going to https://weturnedoutokay.com/contact; they are completely free of charge and with no strings attached)
– the Self-care Bootcamp we are doing throughout the American election week, 11/2-11/6, in the Ninja Parenting Community (you can try the Community for your whole first month for just $3, just by clicking https://weturnedoutokay.com/courage!
Then Evie, Sarah, and I have our fantastic conversation…
And after THAT I read you an essay that I’ve written. It’s called Socks and Medicine and Fear and Love (you can read it by clicking here.)
I hope it helps you frame the small, daily choices that you have a little differently. If you, like me, are prone to coming from fear in these small daily choices, I hope it helps you come from a place of love for yourself. Because I truly believe that the only way you can come from a place of love for others.
Click the following link if you’d like more essays like this in your life: https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly.
And click the following link to view this post in your browser: https://weturnedoutokay.com/348.
Cheers! And thanks for listening/reading!
With all the talk recently about something called “patriotic learning,” I wanted to bring you an episode to help you understand how education can become a political football, what that really means for your child, and what you can do about it.
So I called on my friend, historian Gary Gregory. Gary runs a tour company, Lessons on Liberty, bringing folks into the history of the Revolutionary War.
He also runs The Printing Office of Edes and Gill, where he uses the technology of the 1700s to create real documents from that time period, and to bring people into that time period.
Gary knows a lot about history, both real and revisionist, and brings us his wisdom today!
Hope you enjoy this episode!
There are about a million links, and you can find all of them here:
Greetings! If this feels like a pretty ambitiously named episode, well, that's because this is where we are in fall 2020.
We are on the bleeding edge of crisis parenting, and there is a feeling in the air of "this is where our society fails or succeeds."
(At least that's how it feels to me! You are very welcome to disagree. Either way, I hope this episode gives you a roadmap to success on your parenting journey, and some hope.)
Whether a society succeeds or fails is in large part dependent upon the how that society raises its children.
In this episode I offer five ways to think about this idea:
1. A society will fail by operating from a place of fear…
A society will succeed by operating from a place of love.
2. A society will fail by rejecting change and diversity…
A society will succeed by accepting both of these key qualities and using them to move forward together.
3. A society will fail by looking past – ignoring – that which is right in front of it, but which is difficult to look at…
A society will succeed by understanding what is right in front of it, the matter how difficult or upsetting that information is.
4. A society will fail by stunting and mis-shaping children's development…
A society will succeed by embracing children, wherever they are in their development, and by playing to their children's strengths.
5. A society will fail by putting up barriers and excluding those who don't share similar beliefs…
A society will succeed by choosing to connect on a human level, with compassion and empathy, regardless of beliefs.
Thank you for listening! I hope you find this one helpful!
(View this post on my website by going to weturnedoutokay.com/347-part-1)
1. I am a part of the Emergency Home Learning Summit, a 2-month long Virtual Summit that is free to watch in real time! My talk is coming up this Thursday, and that's not all. The creators of the Summit are making it possible for speakers to do really cool virtual things, like live Office Hours!
Learn more and sign up for the Emergency Home Learning Summit here : )
NPC is where parents are learning how to:
– Help their children adjust to virtual schooling
– Handle it when teachers are, shall we say, less than kind
– Deal with changes in the bedtime routine that results in a child's complete freak out
– Bring a parenting partner on board with positive discipline strategies
– Understand how their values and parenting style impacts their children's development
… And that is just in the last few weeks!
Click here to learn more and join NPC at the Quarterly Membership Rate – 3 months for the price of 2, every quarter that you're a member!
3. My monthly publication, the We Turned Out Okay Playbook, is getting some real accolades; licensed mental health counselor Janine Halloran calls it "A life raft for families who are adrift", and subscribers are saying it's "Worth every penny" and "Simple, and yet so powerful."
Find out what all the fuss is about –
Click the following link to learn more and subscribe to the Playbook:
4. Click here for episode 342, my conversation with coach Mariela Ortiz (where I first learned of the idea that we can come from just one of two places, fear or love.)
5. Click here for episode 339, my conversation with Shannon Connery, PhD, which I reference in today's episode.
6. Click here for episode 344, all about "the secret fears of a child development expert" (that's me.)
7. In this part of the episode I reference one of my all-time favorite books, Visual Intelligence by Amy Herman. She teaches first responders, FBI agents, and others how to overcome their own biases and truly see what is right in front of them. Herman's book is such a model for me, and today I hope to help you understand why what she teaches is so crucial to a society's success.
If there was ever a time to call what we are all doing "crisis parenting," now is it.
In this episode, I bring you a critical tool to help you keep going!
I also share about why I called this show "We Turned Out Okay, The Modern Parent's Guide to Old-School Parenting."
A mom in the WTOO Facebook group asked that question, and this Basics Bootcamp episode seemed like the perfect time to talk about that!
Also today, I have three things to invite you into!
In chronological order:
1. October's We Turned Out Okay Playbook
The October 2020 issue of the We Turned Out Okay Playbook gives you tools for getting the behavior you WANT from your child – it goes to print at noon on Wednesday 10/23!
Licensed mental health counselor and best-selling author Janine Halloran calls my Playbook ""A life raft for families."
If a life raft seems like a good idea to you right now, click the link below!
2. The rate for my online private coaching practice is going up!
I help parents and kids thrive every day in my online private coaching practice, the Ninja Parenting Community (NPC).
Members have exclusive access to the WTOO Book Club, twice-monthly Live Members-Only Calls, and some low key, yet powerful, challenges we are doing this autumn!
The rate for becoming a member will DOUBLE on Saturday 10/26, so if you've been on the fence about joining the Ninja Parenting Community, get in now before the rate goes up!
You'll get your entire first month in NPC for free, too!
3. I'm a Speaker at the Online Toddler Play Summit!
My presentation is all about how to keep going while raising will kids, and it's out on Monday, September 28…
Get your free ticket to the entire event (there are 20 of us speakers : ) by clicking here
Go to weturnedoutokay.com/346 for video of this podcast episode…
Other Key Links:
Click here for Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, my first book.
It comes up today because I share (without any detail whatsoever) of being sexually abused at age 7, a story that I tell in this book.
Click here for The Success Principles by Jack Canfield.
The tool I shared today comes directly from this book : )
This week's highlighted archive episode is located at weturnedoutokay.com/176, my conversation with Ingrid Alli and Hamilton Graziano. We discuss interracial marriage, parenting, and overcoming bias. It's a great past episode and I hope you enjoy it!
Also in the pre-intro I talk about one of my personal heroes, Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg, who we lost last week. I ask you to honor her life by being kind and compassionate. I also share about one of my favorite-ever books, Notorious RBG. Highly recommended reading!
Hugs! We will get through this together!
Hi Friends! Today I'm talking about some successes we've seen both with a coaching client, and here at home : )
Aaaaand... the WTOO Book Club starts up September 16, this coming Wednesday (if you're seeing this in real time)!
I'm sharing the book we will be discussing, and how to join!
(Which is: Go to weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC to get our Book Club meetings for free - as part of your first 30 days Free - in the Ninja Parenting Community, which is where the WTOO Book Club now lives : )
I am SUPER excited to spend some quality time together, talk about what's really on your mind right now as a parent, and learn along with you.
Karen Lock Kolp M.Ed.
Child Development Expert, Parent Coach
Host of the We Turned Out Okay Podcast, helping parents of young children change kids' behavior from bad to good; feel happy inside; and truly enjoy family time
Publisher of the monthly We Turned Out Okay Playbook, teaching simple, powerful tools to help parents feel in control of family life, and happy inside
Author of 3 parenting books including Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, written to help parents "keep calm and handle every temper tantrum"
The quote I live by: "The opposite of play is not work. It is depression." – Brian Sutton-Smith
I'm so excited to bring you today's guest, Phyllis Fagell, LCPC, mom, school counselor, and author of the wonderful book Middle School Matters.
Phyllis helps us (yes – I include myself in here : )
– Pick our battles
– Talk with teachers and caregivers
– Figure out what we CAN do
In short Phyllis helps us feel in control of our family's direction right now.
That's SO important, given this extremely shaky start to the school year and our worries about the pandemic, downright silly politics, and the need for racial and social justice.
Not to mention our own need to pour from a full cup and not an empty one.
Given all that, I know you are going to LOVE our conversation!
You can find Phyllis, and all the wonderful work she does, by going to PhyllisFagell.com <3
Links that come up in today's episode:
Because we've gone to and every-other-week schedule, in each episode I offer a back episode of We Turned Out Okay, something you can listen to in our off week!
Today, I bring you my first conversation with Raeshal Solomon, from episode 215. Raeshal single-handedly got herself out from under a mountain of debt, while living with a serious chronic illness. She's a money expert, but more than that she is an expert in keeping going! I know you are going to love this conversation.
(Raeshal was also a part of OkayCon 2020, my Free Virtual Summit from this past March, right at the beginning of the pandemic. Click weturnedoutokay.com/328 for Raeshal's wonderful contribution to OkayCon 2020.)
I'm excited to share, I will be part of the Reignite Toddler Play global virtual summit coming up at the end of this month! I don't have the link yet, but as soon as I do I will drop it in here. Holly Peretz, the creator of the Virtual Summit interviewed me this past week and I just know you're going to love this conference!
I'm spending September offering you HOPE…
– Click here to watch the first module of my premium "How to Keep Going" course, absolutely free, right there on the page.
– On that page you can also sign up to get the ENTIRE "How to Keep Going course, completely free! (You can also do that by clicking here.)
– "A life raft for families who are struggling to stay afloat." That's what Janine Halloran, LMHC, author of Coping Skills for Kids and Coping Skills for Teens recently said about my We Turned Out Okay Playbook. That is high praise indeed! Check out the Playbook for yourself by going to weturnedoutokay.com/playbook. You can subscribe for the October issue on that page, too!
– In this post, called "A case study about handling epic tantrums," I share the tools and strategies that a mom in our Ninja Parenting Community successfully employed to stop her four-year-old's extremely epic tantrums.
If she can do it, so can you! Click here to learn how you can work with me, for free, for a whole month.
- Bruce Feiler's wonderful book, Life is in the Transitions, comes up in our conversation today.
Welcome to this second installation of Basics Bootcamp!
I tell some truths today that we need to hear and recognize, if we are going to raise a happy family and feel good inside ourselves.
Just like the title says, I do dive into my biggest and deepest fears about the pressures put on you, as you raise your kids.
I say things today that scare the bejabbers out of me!
But I know they need to be said.
As a child development expert, I'm the one who has to say them.
I also share something positive: my biggest hope.
It's a buckwild episode for buckwild times… Let's dive in!
PS lots of links today!
Get your whole first month in the Ninja Parenting Community, my online private coaching practice, for FREE by going to:
We've moved to an every-other-week format, and each episode I am highlighting a great episode from the past!
Today, I offer my conversation with Jonathan Fields, founder of The Good Life Project from December 2016. It's maybe even more relevant today than when we originally recorded.
Today I share two pieces of recent parenting news that had me with my jaw on the floor:
"Parents accused of neglect over virtual truancy; Charges, as families struggle with remote classes"
"No pajamas allowed for online learning, Illinois district says"
In the very first episode of the show, I invited my four best friends from life on, and we all talk about our unplanned adventures:
Here is the first in my Basics Bootcamp series, all about why boundaries are so important when raising kids:
I share about how my kids have gone from reading Dave Barry essay collections to watching calculus lectures on YouTube… for fun… and getting way more out of books like 1984 and Brave New World than I ever did.
I also talk about how the movie Super Size Me helped establish some trust in digital offerings in one of my sons, who'd been feeling as if you just can't trust anything, from any source, that you had not experienced your actual self. (It turns out that, when I share in this episode that Morgan Spurlock gained "like 50 pounds," I was wrong – it was 24 pounds. But still, he gained 24 pounds in 30 days of eating only McDonald's food. That's a lot of pounds!)
Welcome! In this episode I share a recent case study from my online private coaching practice, the Ninja Parenting Community (NPC), where the mom of a four-year-old was dealing with extreme temper tantrums, and fearful that her son would never learn to obey the rules. Even the ones for safety.
She struggled to see how good boundaries could improve that situation – until they did.
Here's something I have learned during the coronavirus pandemic:
Understanding how to do the most basic things, like getting a child to obey you, is even more important now than ever. And yet the basics are elusive during the pandemic.
Today we dive into using a super basic thing, good boundaries, to get your child to obey you.
Also I share about what's happening with the We Turned Out Okay Podcast… changes are coming, ones that will make the creation of the show sustainable for your host : )
It's interesting, because good boundaries also come into play in talking about the changes to the show.
Key Links and Notes:
Click here for my conversation with coach Mariela Ortiz, which is where she brings up a great metaphor: how much more helpful it is for us to help our friend OUT of a hole, rather than jump into the hole along with them… Mariela relates that back to how crucial it is for us to take care of ourselves, get privacy and breaks when necessary, so that we can keep going.
Click here for the fantastic article about returning to school in the pandemic that educator and best-selling author Jessica Lahey wrote, along with her husband Tim Lahey, who was an infectious diseases doctor. They contribute their expertise to give us a great set of guidelines for whether we should be returning to physical school, or virtual school. It's awesome.
Click here for my video and checklist on "Successful potty training even under pressure"
Click here for my video and checklist on "How to handle every temper tantrum"
Click here to get my weekly Parenting Newsletters; I write multiple times per week, with tools, ideas, and (usually) at least one thing I learned how to do better, and how it pertains to helping your family thrive!
Today's back episode reference: weturnedoutokay.com/036
Our choices right now seem extremely limited, don't they? We don't have a choice in how the coronavirus spreads, we don't have a lot of choices in how our children's childcare and schooling works right now. For many of us even our own ability to be private, to have alone time, doesn't feel like it's under our control.
Today's guest, Mariela Ortiz, helps us to a different mindset: she talks about "a daily practice of choice."
Some things are in our control; we can make meaningful choices.
Listen to today's conversation to figure out how to do that!
Notes and Links
Mariela invited me to be one of the experts in her Mommy Matters Summit, such an honor! And we have a GREAT conversation, which you can watch by signing up for the Summit at the link below. It started Monday, August 3 and will go through August 27, 2020, with a new guest expert each day!
Sign up to get 25 days' worth of guests – including me – in your inbox by going to:
Get your FREE August 2020 inaugural issue of the We Turned Out Okay Playbook
I'm excited to share the start of something fun and helpful, the We Turned Out Okay Playbook! It's a monthly publication I'm creating to help you feel like you have some power, and some good choices to make, even in the midst of all the insanity.
You can download the August 2020 PDF completely free! Go to:
Weekly "How is Karen overcoming burnout and exhaustion" Newsletter Series Continues
For the last seven weeks I have shared a newsletter each week about how I'm overcoming burnout and exhaustion, in this time where being a parent is so tough.
Last week I wrote about the part that music plays in my self-care (click here to read about that.)
Get the next newsletters in this series by going to:
Visit weturnedoutokay.com/342 for the video of my conversation today, and for these show notes.
Hugs from me to you! We will get through this time together!
Click here for a favorite book, Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day.
Click here for another favorite book, Skulduggery Pleasant.
SENSITIVE EARS ALERT… Part way through this episode I share about a traumatic event that happened to me in my childhood. I ask that you put on headphones, or listen away from sensitive ears. Thank you!
Today I share three keys to success, when parenting in a pandemic or any crisis.
They are not difficult keys. Because if they were, we wouldn't be able to do them as consistently as they need doing…
Instead, the first key is relaxing, the second key is enjoyable, and the the third key takes something negative and frames it to be positive.
Also: the day before I recorded this episode I had a total brainwave.
I connected up my superpower – helping people feel seen and cared for – to the reason I have this gift, and have had ever since I can remember.
It's not a pretty reason.
When I was seven years old I was sexually abused, in my own home, with my mom right upstairs. (She was completely unaware, and I would be a senior in college before she discovered the extent of the trauma. In my first book, Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, I share about what my folks did that was helpful, even though they had no idea what had happened to me.)
After the incident, my whole personality changed. I felt lost, anxious every time we drove out of my ken in the car, and convinced that if I lost sight of my family, they had deserted me.
The day before recording this episode I had the following brainwave:
My superpower comes from the fact that no one gave me the care that I needed, no one came to my rescue on that day. No one had found me when I was lost.
So, I had to learn to do that for myself.
I had to take care of little Karen, because no one else was there to do that.
And it's left me with a unique ability, that I've been practicing ever since: to make people feel seen, and cared for.
It's become the defining value of my life.
So if you're feeling lost, or as if no one cares about you, let me be that person for you.
As a child development expert, I've never yet met a parent who didn't have some concerns for their children.
If you're feeling like everything is impossible right now – lockdown, mask etiquette, school-at-at home, chaos in one corner and fire in another – I can help.
I've got two ways:
First, I am creating a publication called the We Turned Out Okay Playbook.
It is going to be so helpful for you, as you navigate the craziness and help your family through it all.
I wrote it to help you LIVE in challenging times, so you and your family can come through them and thrive.
Check it out – and download the August 2020 PDF completely free – by going to:
Second, I'm opening up some time in my schedule to talk. For conversations.
Conversation that helps you feel seen, and heard, and cared for.
Conversation that helps you handle parenting, in the age of coronavirus.
If you want to think possibilities instead of fears…
If you want the help of someone who knows her child-development stuff, who helps her clients get real success…
If you want to have a conversation that's so helpful that you will literally remember it for the rest of your life… Email me!
(I share my email address towards the end of this episode. I won't write it down for bot-fraud-prevention purposes, but suffice it to say that my email address is my name, combined with the name of this website. Or, you could just listen to this episode, where you'll hear me say it out loud : )
I've worked with people who came into a coaching session with me, believing that something was impossible. They came out of it looking forward to some new possibilities and within a very short amount of time (the story that I share in this episode, it was the same day) wrote to me and said "I thought this was impossible, and we are DOING it!"
What is possible for you?
Let's find out.
The inaugural issue of the We Turned Out Okay Playbook is officially out!
Click the link below to view and download your free PDF copy of Issue 1/August 2020:
The wonderful coach, Mariela Ortiz, was kind enough to include me in her virtual summit, Mommy Matters!
Click the link below to join the Free virtual Summit that Mariela is offering, which starts on August 3:
On August 4 (next week if you're listening in real time) Mariela is my guest on We Turned Out Okay!
On that day or after you can click the following link to listen to our conversation:
I am loving the Parenting in Place Masterclass, and talk about this in here today because the second key to success for parenting in the pandemic is a game that I first heard of in this masterclass. Click the link below to find out more about it:
Click the link below for this post in your browser:
Navigating social situations has only gotten worse in the pandemic – but it sure wasn't always easy, even before!
Today's guests, Evie Granville and Sarah Davis of the Modern Manners for Moms and Dads Podcast, have spent years helping parents navigate social minefields. With a book coming out in the fall and an awesome quiz that you can take right now (I did!), These two friends, educators, and parents have lots to contribute in helping us get along and raise our kids in these crazy times.
Listen to this episode to learn:
– how to navigate the toughest situations you might encounter
– how to understand your own approach to parenting
– how to shift that approach, if it's not working as well as it could for you and your family
A few announcements
1. I share in this week's preshow segment how frustrating I'm feeling, as a child-development expert, hearing from so many parents whose children are not doing well in the current educational climate.
I've got 3 ways to help if this is you!
Join my FREE Pandemic Back-to-School Challenge – enroll at the link below by Wednesday, July 22, 2020:
Try the Ninja Parenting Community (NPC), our online virtual coaching practice, where parents are getting much needed help navigating the start to this crazy school year.
Right now you can try the Community for just $1 for your whole first month! Click the following link for details and to join NPC:
A new publication I'm creating, the WTOO Playbook! The August 2020 issue is jampacked with help and hope as you navigate the beginning of this crazy school year.
Join my newsletter group to find out more about the WTOO Playbook:
2. We're in the middle of a 10-week (free) newsletter series on how I'm overcoming my own burnout and overwhelm.
The most recent newsletter was all about how much better I felt coming from a place of kindness, rather than judgment.
Click here to read that newsletter and to sign up for future ones!
3. I've been invited to be part of the Mommy Matters Virtual Summit, the brainchild of next week's WTOO guest, parent Coach, mindfulness expert, and yoga instructor Mariela Ortiz!
The Summit starts in early August, and you can sign up for it by going to:
Links Evie, Sarah, and I discuss are in the show notes, located at weturnedoutokay.com/340
Enjoy the show!
If the return to preschool/childcare/school is on your mind – and I know it is, because I've spoken with lots of you over the last few weeks – this FREE Pandemic Back-to-School Challenge will help you:
– Take on your biggest concerns about the upcoming year
– Manage your children's behavior, and your own emotions, so you're ready for the upcoming changes
– Learn the 3 Keys to Success for starting this year off right, even amidst all the uncertainty
You can do this, and I'm excited to help!
The challenge runs for four days from Thursday, July 23-Sunday, July 26.
Each day I'm sharing a video with participants as well as inviting questions and success stories…
Also participants get to be present for the Live Challenge Wrap up on Sunday!
And I'm doing something I've never done before in a challenge, handing out MVP awards!
I know we can start this year off on a positive note, regardless of whatever else is happening.
Prove to yourself that you can do it – join our challenge!
Click the following link:
Challenge starts Thursday, July 23.
See you then!
I am excited to bring Shannon Connery, PhD, onto the show today, because she's got lots of great ideas to help you keep going! (Click here for Shannon's website, where you'll find her podcast, her blog, and a wonderful free guide that she offers to help people overcome the challenges that we all have in our lives : )
Shannon is a therapist living in Colorado, and in our conversation today you'll hear her story of losing nearly everything – and coming back stronger from that experience.
Shannon is also a podcaster, and her Fix Yourself is one of my favorites – she helps us all know what to do when we encounter difficult events and struggles in our lives. Shannon shares so much about herself, and her feelings, and what she's tried that works to keep going and to help her family members and patients thrive.
Today we talk about:
– The role of empathy and positivity in helping you keep going
– Steps we are taking (and that you can also take) to dismantle racism
– What Shannon is doing to help those that she works with through the pandemic
Video of our conversations – as well as lots of key links from this conversation – are available at weturnedoutokay.com/339
A couple notes from the preshow segment:
– Registration is now open for the private coaching practice for parents that I run (the Ninja Parenting Community), so you can join now if you need the extra help from a child development expert, and the support of a wonderful online community!
– All throughout July I'm offering free live trainings, and even a free challenge! Get notified of these at the following link:
Today we're answering your GREAT questions!
– "[My young daughter] is going through a phase of not wanting clothes on. Do I just not battle it? What's appropriate at 4? How do I instill the importance of being careful without taking away her sweet innocence? Or am I totally overthinking this?"
– "This week's hot topic is sharing and temper around that. The minute [my three-year-old's] little brother walks in the room (even if he hasn't messed with her stuff yet) she goes right to screaming at him and throwing stuff… I'm struggling with getting her to react in a bit calmer way.
"Understandably, she is having a lot of trouble letting other kids play with any of her toys. I get it, we haven't had to share in a long time. I'm just wondering if there are some good strategies or advice for starting back at square one was sharing, and also talking nicely to others even when angry."
– "My four-year-old was playing with her toys saying "this one is dead, it's in the dead place" (inside the toy garage) then when I needed a shower "Mummy you need to go to the shower and be dead"… How can I talk about death at an appropriate level for children?"
– "They don't stop fighting with each other – they push each other's buttons just for "the fun of it."
(I said they were great questions : )
If You're Struggling to Keep Going
During this summer I'm using my newsletter to share about my own journey, trying to find peace and stop feeling so guilty while working, running our household, and keeping going sustainably.
Last week I shared about my first step (stopping "obsessively checking" on the Internet, and (as I share in this episode) it's going well!
But I know I've got a long way to go… If you want to come along on this journey with me, I'm sharing about it in my newsletters. Click the link below to get them automagically delivered to your inbox!
Tons of links today!
You'll find them - as well as a cheat sheet of answers to these questions - at weturnedoutokay.com/338