I've been super excited to bring you this conversation!
We recorded back in late summer, and here is a testament to the power of this conversation: just this morning I was speaking to my teen, and remembering today's guest, Shane Trotter, telling about research on drug addiction. This research was called the "rat playground," in which the positive societies that the rats lived in during the research made it easy for them to turn away from the powerful drugs – like cocaine – that were available 24/7 in the playground.
If you need some hope that things will be okay, THIS is your conversation.
As a young adult, Shane developed a kind of obsessive-compulsive disorder called Pino OCD. And like me with my tendon challenges over the last decade, Shane has found this to be as much a gift as anything else. He wouldn't be who he is today without Pino OCD.
Shane has written a great book, Setting the Bar, which is out just this week and which I know you're going to love. We discuss Setting the Bar, so you'll get a flavor for it.
There's so much else in here to love. I am excited to share a conversation that I personally found enlightening, inspiring, and so much fun!
Join us!
Key Links…
– Find Shane at trottershane.com
– My conversation with coach Andrew Moss from episode 374 comes up today… Listen here
– My first book, Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, comes up in our conversation… Get the book here: http://amzn.to/1WE8DOA
– The hilarious and wonderful improv show, Whose Line Is It Anyway?, comes up in our conversation
– We talk about my friend and frequent WTOO guest Janine Halloran today, find Janine at janinehalloran.com
Greetings! I am excited to bring you a fun and provocative conversation on play today with friend and colleague Zovig Garboushian.
Our conversation ranges over art installations in two of our favorite cities; what fun really is; and how play helps us get a larger picture of our lives and ourselves…
Zovig has helped me through some pretty challenging places in my own life. Connect with her by going to http://boldnessablazecoaching.
More links just below. Join us!
Key Links…
Find Zovig at http://
Click the following link to read about The Gates, an amazing art installation in New York City…https://en.wikipedia.org/
Click the following link to read about The Net, an amazing art installation in Boston…https://www.wbur.org/
Click the following link for episode 264, my conversation with Blake Boles…https://weturnedoutokay.
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With Love,
K
If you're in a place that feels not of your choosing, where the daily grind is pulling you down and it feels like there are no good choices, I'm glad you are here because this conversation will help.
Today I bring you a conversation with amazing coach Andrew Moss, who – as you'll hear – went on a journey of discovery a number of years ago that started with an old friend asking him the question "How do you want your kids to remember you?"
It was a difficult time in Andrew's life, and this question set him on a trajectory full of joy, gratitude, and kindness. Once Andrew understood the implications of that question, he set out to remake his life with purpose.
I hope today's conversation inspires you and gives you some practical ways to get where you want to go… Join us!
Key Links:
See what Andrew is up to at his website, coachandrewmoss.com … It's got a very fun innovation, The Everything Button : )
Click here for Simon Sinek's podcast episode with guest Matthew Barzun, who's written a wonderful book called The Power of Giving Away Power
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Cheers!,
Greetings! For the second in our Roundtable series with Marilyn Dollar, ClaireYvonne Nesbitt, and Tom Lancaster, we're bringing you favorite quotes, and a beautiful poem written by ClaireYvonne!
Hope you enjoy this episode – and feel as inspired – as I do!
Cheers –
Karen (or Kay, as these folks know and refer to me)
PS Instead of episode notes on the web, click here to read about my busted website and what will happen now that I've made the decision to move!
Key Links…
Find ClaireYvonne Nesbitt at https://www.linkedin.com/in/
Find Tom Lancaster at http://altitudeevolution.
Find Marilyn Dollar at https://thewomanscoach.com/
Greetings! In reality the title of this episode is but one tiny part of the whole, because I get to bring you a roundtable today!
Click play to hear my conversation with three world-class coaches. Three amazing people, Tom Lancaster, Marilyn Dollar, and ClaireYvonne Nesbitt, who have each inspired me to become the best version of myself I can possibly be, simply with their presence and their sharing of thoughts – and in one case poetry (coming up in the next episode!)
The title of this episode feels especially relevant as I write these notes, after spending some time camping.
Out in nature, but with other humans – and their generators and loud music – which, if I let it, could have truly spoiled camping experience. (I'll write more on my camping experience, including the 48 hours I spent solo camping all by my onesies!, in an upcoming free newsletter-essay, which you can sign up for here: https://bit.ly/K2essays .)
For now, sit back and enjoy an amazing conversation. I hope that hearing from these three superb coaches helps you as much as it helped me!
Cheers!
Karen (or Kay, as these folks know and refer to me)
PS Instead of episode notes on the web, click here to read about my busted website and what will happen now that I've made the decision to move!
Key Links…
Find ClaireYvonne Nesbitt at https://www.linkedin.com/in/
Find Tom Lancaster at http://altitudeevolution.
Find Marilyn Dollar at https://thewomanscoach.com/
Click here for the book You Can't Say You Can't Play
Click here for information on David Taylor Klaus
Listen to Tom Lancaster's conversation with our fellow coach Bhavik Patel by clicking here.
Click here for The Lion Tracker's Guide to Life by Boyd Varty
Click here for information on Henry Rollins and the Black Flag Band
Click here for Kavita M. Ramdass' quote on "Women who…"
Click here for the video on how 6 portrait photographers' expectations shaped their final portraits, even more so than their subject
Thanks for listening/watching! I'm glad you are here
I'm thrilled to bring you this conversation with world-class coach Mike Harris!
(FYI: There is some mild adult language in here, so maybe listen away from sensitive ears or use ear buds : )
Mike is currently writing a book on the value he holds most dear, freedom.
He's a deep thinker who understands the importance of irreverence – in fact I almost called today's episode after something Mike says in our conversation:
"There is a certain irreverence in having choice."
He brings playful energy, a fascinating life journey that brought him where he is today, and at heart a vision for how we can all enjoy the pants off of our lives!
Here are some other mic drops you'll hear Mike share:
"The world is skewed toward a linear expression of how things are supposed to go."
"What if play weren't a reward in a transaction?"
"What if we lived our entire lives in the value of freedom?"
It's so good!
A couple notes:
1. This was originally supposed to be two episodes… I chose to keep the tape running, instead bringing you one longer one. If the ideas are flying at you fast and furious, and you need to pause and come back, I wanted to give you the choice of when and how to do that. But I bet that you, like me, will dive in and this time will go so quickly!
2. Fellow world-class coach Marilyn Dollar was planning to join us but there was a technological snafu… You'll hear us talk about her, and while she doesn't make it into today's conversation she will be coming on the show. So stay tuned : )
I hope you love this conversation as much as I did!
Here are the links that come up in today's episode:
Mike's home-on-the-web, MikeFHarris.com
Books that have had a huge influence on Mike:
Crazy Good by Steve Chandler
Tao Te Ching
Books that have had a huge influence on me:
The Courage to Heal
The Jeeves and Wooster books by PG Woodhouse (I cite one in this conversation, The Jeeves Omnibus. But they're all amazing)
Office Space, the movie
100 Truths You Will Learn Too Late, an amazing book
Cory Wong, the awesome song by Vulfpeck featuring guitarist Cory Wong
Episode 363, my conversation with Washington Post Parent Columnist Meghan Leahey
Episode 48, my conversation with author and poet Daniel Wolff
This episode's home on the web: weturnedoutokay.com/371
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Maybe it's not quite true, the title of this episode.
Maybe today's value isn't quite as all-encompassing as that makes it sound.
But it sure comes close for me.
We started this series back in episode one with a question, and I want to wrap up in the same way.
Today's is: If there was only one thing that we needed, what would it be?
Thank you so much for listening!
This has been an exercise in vulnerability for me, sharing these values with you. It means SO much – more than you will ever know – to have you along for this ride.
I am full of love and appreciation for you, in this moment and always <3
Karen
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It's free, and I promise to hold your email address – and thus your heart – safely, in both my hands…
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This episode's home-on-the-web: https://
The link to the fourth episode in this series (this is the fifth, and final)… https://
Click https://weturnedoutokay.
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If I know you – and if you're a longtime listener – I bet you saw the words "not play" and immediately said "D'oh! Where Karen is concerned, play is always a thing!"
But not today.
No, today's value eats play for breakfast.
Thank you so much for listening! I am glad you're here <3
Karen
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The link to the third episode in this series (this is the fourth)… https://
Click here for the Mindfulness Coach app by the American Veterans Administration. It's AMAZING.
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I'm playing my little game again today, trying to guess what you'll think the next value in our series is… (For those of you keeping score, this is Part 3 of 5.)
Today's is something even cooler, even bigger, and even more mind-blowing than exhilaration.
Which is saying something, because Exhilaration is my 2021 Word of the Year!
Thank you so much for listening! I am glad you're here <3
Karen
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It's free, and I promise to hold your email address – and thus your heart – safely, in both my hands…
Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up : )
This episode's home-on-the-web: https://weturnedoutokay.com/368
The link to the second episode in this series (this is the third)… https://weturnedoutokay.com/367
Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/360 for my conversation with the amazing Julie Lythcott-Haims, which sometimes I still listen to and feel knocked on the head all over again – in a good way.
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So, as I'm doing this series on the values that I hold most dear, I'm playing a little game with myself. I'm imagining you, asking yourself "can I guess today's value?"
All I can say is, if you guess creativity, you are wrong…
But not completely wrong.
Thank you so much for listening! I am glad you're here <3
Karen
PS I have an invitation for you: if you haven't already, get to know me a little better by signing up for my weekly newsletter.
It's free, and I promise to hold your email address – and thus your heart – safely, in both my hands…
Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up : )
This episode's home-on-the-web: https://weturnedoutokay.com/367
The link to the first episode in this series (this is the second)… https://weturnedoutokay.com/366
Click here for the link to the TED talk that I reference today, called The Birth of a Word.
It is awesome and you've got to listen to it!
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I am excited to bring you into this, the first in a five-part series on really important subject – and a fun one too!
But I don't want to say too much about it. I want you to listen, and see if what you hear resonates.
For this first part though, I do have one question:
What should you be, in a world where you can be anything?
Thank you so much for listening! I am glad you're here <3
Karen
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It's free, and I promise to hold your email address – and thus your heart – safely, in both my hands…
Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up : )
This episode's home-on-the-web: https://weturnedoutokay.com/366
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"Is this something that I care about, or is this something that someone else thinks I should care about?" – Shari Medini
That's what I almost called today's episode (but used another excellent quote from today's guest for brevity's sake : )
If you want a conversation about handling all the stuff that is flying at you…
If you want to feel better about the choices that you have that maybe you didn't even realize…
You will love this talk with Shari Medini, one half of the duo at Adore Them Parenting! Shari and her cofounder Karissa Tunis have written a great book, Parenting While Working from Home, and offer their help and support to parents from their website.
They brought me into their virtual summit this winter – you can hear the audio from my presentation at the end of today's episode in fact, presenting on a subject that is near and dear to my heart!
I know you're going to love our conversation!
Video of my conversation with Shari and my presentation for the Adore Them Summit: https://weturnedoutokay.com/365
Cheers! And thank you for listening!
Karen
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The newsletter is where I share my best essays, stories, and tools. Because it's more personal, it's even better than the podcast! Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up : )
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Greetings! Yes, on its surface this is a conversation (with 6-time returning champion Janine Halloran! So excited to bring her back to you!) about ADHD.
But it's about so much more.
It's about expectations, and how they create the roles our children inhabit.
It's about us, the roles we inhabit, and how we got here.
It's about what we can do that would be detrimental, or helpful – again, not just with the concerns of ADHD. But with so much more.
I'm excited to welcome you into this conversation, and I'm grateful that you are here!
Key links and video located at https://weturnedoutokay.com/364
Key Links
Click here for the video that I share in the intro, in which six photographers were told six different things about the same man – and as a result of their different expectations, they produce six completely different portraits of that man.
Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/191 for the conversation I share about in the intro, me talking with my 13-year-old son… He accuses me of being "Pollyanna-ish." It's a fascinating chat even if you don't happen to be this boy's mother!
Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up for my weekly newsletters… Each is an invitation to go deeper with me. To get to know me better, to correspond, and to get support for your challenges. Completely free, just bring your open heart <3
Click http://copingskillsforkids.com to check out all of the useful and fun stuff that Janine is doing!
Click here for the amazing Rick Riordan book series about Percy Jackson and the Olympians.
Click here for an article about one of Dav Pilkey's Captain Underpants books, which the author withdrew from publication recently.
Click here for the Angst movie.
Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/194 for my conversation with awesome author Joshilyn Jackson, a New York Times best-selling fiction author (who shares on my show that she didn't feel empathy until she became a parent. A fascinating conversation!)
Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/324 for my conversation with Janine during OkayCon 2020, the video series I did to support parents during the pandemic… It was called "Why your child's behavior may be worse now than usual, and what to do about it, with Janine Halloran, LMHC"
Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/300 to hear my roundtable conversation with Janine, today's guest, and special-needs preschool teacher Tricia Tomaso. Two of my favorite humans on the whole planet, together in a fabulous roundtable discussion!
Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/361 for the first in this ADHD series, called "ADHD is not a result of parenting" – talking with pediatric occupational therapist Holly Peretz today!"
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Greetings! THERE ARE SWEARS TODAY…
So be sure to listen away from sensitive ears : )
My guest, Washington Post Parent Columnist Meghan Leahey, recorded this conversation with me back in February… and it feels even more relevant now, than when we recorded.
This episode will help you:
– Put important stuff in perspective
– Lay to rest a childhood demon or two
– Appreciate the absurdity inherent in our lives right now
Watch our conversation by going to https://weturnedoutokay.com/363
Key links just below.
Cheers! And thank you so much for listening!
Key Links
Connect with Meghan – and get her book, Parenting Outside the Lines! – at MLparentcoach.com
Today, the Parent Encouragement Program comes up because Meghan use to be part of that program! Check it out at https://pepparent.org/
My conversation with Katherine Reynolds Lewis (another Parent Encouragement Program alum) comes up today… Listen by going to https://weturnedoutokay.com/351
The We Turned Out Okay Playbook, my subscription-only, quality monthly playbook for parents, has gone digital! You can now get this essential tool for parental well-being either in your physical snail mailbox, or digitally!
Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/playbook for details, and to subscribe.
What's next? For many, that feels like the question of the moment.
As I recorded this episode, there were some hopeful notes in the air, but also some serious uncertainty.
A little more than a year ago everyone's lives were completely disrupted, and the stress and worry and fear that we've lived with for so long feels impenetrable.
What's next? This may be a frightening question. But it's also an exhilarating one, when looked at in a certain light.
If any or all of that is on your mind, I hope my conversation with author and community-builder Gail Clanton is helpful for you. Gail brings wonderful energy and ideas to your ears today!
You will learn:
– how to tap into your own creativity
– how to foster community, even with the way that we have been living since early 2020
– 3 ways to share your stories
It's a fantastic conversation, and I'm so grateful to Gail for coming on the show!
You can watch the video of our conversation by going to https://weturnedoutokay.com/362
Key Links just below.
Thanks for reading! Cheers!
Key Links
Gail has just published a beautiful memoir, Sparkle in the Rain; click here to see!
Her anthology Living in the Key of Joy comes out next month – click here to check it out : )
The Parenting in Place Masterclass comes up in our conversation; this masterclass has been a lifesaver for me and many others over the past year. Click this link to check it out: http://parentinginplacemasterclass.com
A couple writing resources that come up in our conversation today:
temi.com
KDP
In the preshow I share about two recent episodes that have helped me figure out "what's next"…
My conversation with Julie Lythcott-Haimes in episode 360 of the podcast
My conversation with coaching client Kate about pandemic survivor's guilt and so much more, episode 360.5 of the podcast
The We Turned Out Okay Playbook, my subscription-only, quality monthly playbook for parents, is going digital! You can now get this essential tool for parental well-being either in your physical snail mailbox, or digitally, if you'd rather enjoy a digital, than physical, copy!
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Greetings! Welcome to this first installment in my series on ADHD <3
I am honored and thrilled to bring you this conversation with pediatric occupational therapist – and mom of toddlers – Holly Peretz!
As you'll hear in our conversation, Holly knows lots about the challenges of raising young children.
In fact she's built an entire virtual summit around addressing these challenges, and thriving (both you, and your kids thriving, I mean.)
Click here to sign up for Holly's upcoming, amazing Toddler Play Conference – I am a speaker once again and so excited to be a part of this conference!
In today's conversation, Holly shares her knowledge of ADD and ADHD. Specifically we discuss how to know if your child has one of these neurodiversities, what to do around this whole subject that is helpful, and what to avoid doing.
Key links below – hope you enjoy this episode of We Turned Out Okay!
Key Links
Click here to register for the Toddler Play Conference, which begins Thursday 4/22/21! You can watch all the presentations for free in real time, and it's all online so you get to do it in your PJs if you wish!
Holly talks about The Explosive Child by Ross Greene… Click here for this seminal book.
I interviewed Tanya Trainor of Miss Tanya's Nursery Schools in an early episode of We Turned Out Okay; click the following link to listen! https://weturnedoutokay.com/167
If you'd like to read my first book, Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, for free, click here.
My masterclass, What's the pandemic doing to my child?, is SOLD OUT – before we even made it out of the Early Bird pricing! If you are signed up, I can't wait to work with you on this important topic!
If you missed out on this one, stay tuned because I'll be offering other masterclasses soon.
In fact, sign up for my free weekly newsletters, https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly, to find out about the next masterclass before the general public!
The We Turned Out Okay Playbook, my subscription-only, quality monthly playbook for parents, is going digital! Starting with the May issue you can now get this essential tool for parental well-being either in your physical American snail mailbox, or digitally, if you live outside of the US – or if you'd rather enjoy a digital, than physical, copy!
Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/playbook for details, and to subscribe.
Video, links, and show notes for this episode are all located at https://weturnedoutokay.com/361
Thanks for being here!
There is no manual for emerging from a pandemic, just as there is none for living through one.
So my private coaching client Kate's questions might be very familiar to you:
– "Am I being selfish?" (To send her child to in-person school, or summer camp.)
– How do we keep "the comfort of closeness" we've had during all this, but still foster a kid's independence?
– What about kids' physical safety – when they are not right next to us, when they are off doing normal childhood things (like school or summer camp)?
This is usually an off week for the podcast, but in speaking with Kate, the concerns she brought up and the stuff she is dealing with felt extremely relevant to what you are likely experiencing right now.
If you, like Kate – like me – are wondering about any of this, you are going to LOVE this episode.
Join us!
Key Links
In this conversation Kate shares about value she got from my book, Educating Happy Kids. For this and my other books, go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/books.
Click here to register for the Toddler Play Conference, which begins Thursday 4/22/21! If you have young children you won't want to miss this, Holly Peretz's second annual deep dive into living, dare I even say enjoying life, with toddlers. You can watch all the presentations for free in real time, and it's all online so you get to do it in your PJs if you wish!
My masterclass, What's the pandemic doing to my child?, is SOLD OUT – before we even made it out of the Early Bird pricing! If you are signed up, I can't wait to work with you on this important topic!
If you missed out on this one, stay tuned because I'll be offering other masterclasses soon.
In fact, sign up for my free weekly newsletters, https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly, to find out about the next masterclass before the general public!
Video, links, and show notes for this episode are all located at https://weturnedoutokay.com/360.5
Thanks for being here!
For this episode my guest, Julie Lythcott-Haims, wanted to be sure to let you all know: "this is not a show about parenting!"
This one's about us, the grown-ups.
Our lives, our choices, our challenges.
Julie was Dean of Freshman at Stanford University for a decade, and in that time she helped the young adults who arrived at college become true grown-ups. She also learned a lot!
In truth, Julie has learned a lot over her whole life. She is the New York Times best-selling author of How to Raise an Adult and one of my all-time favorite books ever, Real American (which chronicles her experience growing up Black and biracial in affluent circumstances in the United States.)
Julie's latest book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult shares lots of her own stories as well as the stories of many other people, their challenges, and how they handled them. It's storytelling plus self-help with a beautiful result!
Put it this way: I've been an adult for a lot of years and I learned so much from this beautiful book.
I am OVER the MOON to bring you this awesome woman's ideas on how to handle the challenges that life sends your way.
Join us for a fast-moving, fun, and educational conversation [with swears! Be sure to listen away from littles, or other sensitive ears.]
There are all kinds of links just below, including to Julie's books, the two upcoming free virtual summits I'm speaking in… and info on how you can be invited to my birthday party, coming up on April 19th!
View our conversation in video, as well as seeing all show notes and links, by going to:
https://weturnedoutokay.com/360
Links That Come Up Today
Click here for Julie's latest book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult
Click here for Julie's memoir about growing up Black and biracial in affluent America, Real American
Click here for her awesome book on parenting, How to Raise an Adult
Julie has plans to open a Membership Club! Click here for more information : )
Free Virtual Summit 1: On Thursday, April 8 I am presenting in a free virtual summit called Raising Remarkable Kids… Click here to register and hear me speak along with nine other parenting experts!
Free Virtual Summit 2: A bit later in April I'm speaking in the second annual Toddler Play Conference, run by the amazing Holly Peretz… Click here for details and to register for this conference, beginning April 21!
I've got a big birthday coming up soon, and to celebrate I'm having a party! It's an "Insight/Wisdom Party," and I'm inviting you to come along and share what you've learned in this crazy-ass year! Only folks who receive my free weekly email newsletter will receive the invitation, so click the following link to join my email group: https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly
I'll see you at my party!
Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/000 to hear my "about the podcaster" show, in which my four best buddies and I share about our unplanned adventures.
Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/pdnt for your free copy of my first parenting book, Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics!
When I first met Julie, during her office hours in November 2020, I was so moved that I created an entire webpage sharing what I learned there: https://weturnedoutokay.com/julie
Julie is one of the amazing speakers in the ParentinginPlaceMasterclass.com.
Thank you so much for listening today! You rock!
Greetings! In today's conversation my guest, Jessica Lahey, and I discuss some big and weighty issues… This would be a good episode to listen to away from sensitive ears or wearing headphones. (It's an awesome episode, just awesome for us grown-ups : )
I feel an immense sense of gratitude to Jess for coming back on the show (she is a returning champion! Click this link to listen to our first conversation: https://weturnedoutokay.com/054.)
Jess is the author of the new book The Addiction Inoculation (which you can order by clicking here! Squee!) Her ideas on educating kids, fostering a sense of trust while keeping children accountable to themselves, and her fearless examination of her own journey with substance abuse are what my gratitude is based in.
But Jess brings so much more to our conversation. She's funny, not afraid to laugh at herself, and super supportive of her audience, her family, and fellow writers. Talking with Jess is a learning opportunity about:
– What gaslighting is and how it hurts children
– How we can protect our kids against addiction
– How we can develop the most important habits (spoiler: it's through play and gamifying)
ALSO! It's the first in our new segment, Triumphs & Misdemeanors, where we get to hear your voices and either celebrate how you have knocked it out of the park – or commune with you if you share an epic fail…
Listen after my conversation with Jess to hear today's Triumph, and so you can write down the phone number and contribute your own Triumph, or Misdemeanor!
Click weturnedoutokay.com/359 to view this conversation in video, and for the bazillion links too! Key Links
Click here for Jess's new book, The Addiction Inoculation – you are going to love it!
Celebrate my birthday with me on Monday evening April 19! I'm hosting a Wisdom/Insight Party, the chance to be in community together, learn from each other and support each other after more than a year in the pandemic. It's completely free with no strings attached. Just come and enjoy!
Invitations are going out to those of you signed up for my free newsletter, so click this link to sign up: https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly
Click this link for the masterclass I'm teaching, "What's the pandemic doing to my child?"… https://weturnedoutokay.com/pandemicclass
Click here for Jess's blog post, "Something Had to Give," about the alcohol addiction she confronted as she started writing her NYT bestseller, The Gift of Failure
Click here for the book Quit Like a Woman by Holly Whitaker
Click this link for my conversation with Ingrid Ali and Hamilton Graziano, the biracial couple Ben and I struck up a friendship with while we were on our second honeymoon, and they were on their first: https://weturnedoutokay.com/176
Click here for the Being Black at School organization begin by Kelly Wickham Hearst To help black children not feel gaslit
Click here for the show Hot Ones with Sean Evans
Click here for Shane Lopez's book, Making Hope Happen
Click here for the documentary Follow Through, about a student of Jess's
Click here for On Being 40 (ish) , and anthology which includes a piece from Jess
Click here for the #AmWriting episode where Jess and cohost KJ brought me onto their show!
Click here for OkayCon 2020, the Free virtual Summit, where I brought you 10 great conversations about getting through the pandemic (recorded in March and April 2020).
Get my first book FREE… It's called Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, and parents find it extremely helpful in getting good behavior from their kids!
Click this link: https://weturnedoutokay.com/pdnt
Thank you so much for listening today! You rock!
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Greetings! Today I get to share a powerful conversation with Chloee, my one to one coaching client. Chloee has a toddler and the challenges she faces in caring for her daughter are likely concerns that you also have, regardless of the age of your children.
Here's what you'll learn by listening:
– How to address the challenges that Covid brings
– How to make a crucial choice, one that we all must make every day
– How to deal with temper tantrums, especially when we must say "no" to our kids
I encourage you to be coached while you listen.
By that I mean: when I ask Chloee a question, hit pause.
Consider the question for yourself and your situation.
Even, write down your responses.
(And if you want to experience the power of coaching with me, I am opening up some spaces for a few completely free, no-strings-attached, deep and magical coaching conversations! If you'd like one of them to be yours, write me, karen (at) weturnedoutokay (dot) com !)
I'm excited to listen back to this one with my Mom Hat on, because I'm sure I'll learn so much from this talk with Chloee about how to handle the concerns she raises with my own kids (who are 16 and 20!)
This is a digest episode, which means that you should stay tuned after my conversation with Chloee! Listen for:
– How to handle information overload
– A new program I'm offering, "What's the pandemic doing to my child?"
– An update – including the phone number! – for our new podcast segment, Triumphs and Misdemeanors (this segment starts in our next episode! Squee!)
What's the Pandemic Doing to My Child? – A new program I'm offering you might be interested in…
Working with private clients over these last several months, I’ve heard again and again of worries about what the pandemic is doing to children.
As a child development expert, not only do I know the answer to that; I know what to do about it.
Beginning in May 2021 I will offer a five-week program covering:
– The toll that long-term confinement and sequestration from others can cause
– Strategies to handle this long-term confinement and limit the negative impacts
– Creating a home environment that supports the social and emotional development your child needs
– Dealing with reentry including handling anxiety, bullies, and other social concerns
All along we’ll be diving into your specific questions and issues.
To make absolutely sure that you have a plan going forward we’ll spend our last class time together in a Q&A, so you can have all your concerns addressed and questions answered.
We will even have an accelerator call – an extra session to spend together – before the program begins in May so I can be sure I’m addressing your concerns and giving you all the support I can.
If that sounds good to you, I’m offering a special earlybird price…
Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to be notified of this and other programs I offer:
Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly
Cheers! And thanks for listening!!
Greetings! In today's episode we examine the process of getting what our heart longs for, in a coaching conversation with one of my 1-to-1 coaching clients!
As you'll hear, Regan is a mom and an attorney, currently (along with her husband) working from home while their children are home as well, in in virtual/hybrid school.
Regan gets courageous and vulnerable with us today. She shares the dream of her heart for her kids… and what she's doing each and every day to help make that dream come true.
In our conversation you'll learn:
– How to get your heart's desire
– The importance of big dreams and tiny action steps
– Making both your superpower AND the dark side of that superpower work for you in achieving your dreams
Lately I've been asking coaching clients "what makes my coaching magical?" (You'll hear Regan and I talk about this in this episode.)
The answers I'm getting back are fascinating – it turns out that something I'm really good at is helping parents stop treading the conventional path and do what works for THEM, and their family.
We all have dreams. What are you doing to make yours reality?
If you're ready to go on the adventure of your life with me as your guide, write me, and let's talk!
Plus… This is a digest episode, so in addition to our conversation I'm bringing you a story that I recently sent to the folks in my free email newsgroup! Click this link to get weekly letters like this delivered right to your inbox: weturnedoutokay.com/weekly
I share about the "Parents Working from Home" free virtual summit that I'm honored to be included in (happening this coming Saturday 2/27, 10 AM to 1 PM EST).
And, I give you an update on a new segment of this podcast: it's called Triumphs and Misdemeanors, and I hope you will be a part of it!
Join us!
Key Links:
Click here for psychologist – and friend-of-the-podcast – Shannon Connery's recent episode of her Fix Yourself podcast, in which she talks about energy level and a way to think of it that's been really helpful for me recently. Maybe it will be helpful for you, too!
Click here for the weekly planner that Regan and I discuss in this episode. The planner was once exclusively for people in my Ninja Parenting Community, but I am sharing it here with you today in hopes that it will help you to see your entire week in one half sheet piece of printer paper. Enjoy!
Click here to sign up for the free Parenting While Working from Home Virtual Summit taking place Saturday February 27 from 10 AM to 1 PM EST. (Also I'll be stopping by the Facebook group associated with the Virtual Summit between noon and 1 PM EST. Maybe I'll see you there!)
Click here to read the story that I share today in the latter part of this episode, called "What my Italian relatives know about the off-season."
(This is also where you can see the picture I mention in today's episode, me in Venice in 1992, wearing *quite* a sweater : )
Click the following link to view the show notes from today's episode on my website: weturnedoutokay.com/357
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Due to the content of our conversation, today's episode is going to be a good one to listen AWAY from sensitive ears… I think you're going to love today's conversation, I know I did! But some topics may be a little intense for, well, littles.
Greetings! I am super excited to bring today's guest to you, educator and parent coach Sarah Scheldt, M.Ed.!
In today's conversation I'll introduce you to Sarah, so you can come to know her and the incredibly helpful, giving person she is.
Today Sarah discusses:
- How to handle your kids' toughest days and biggest feelings
- How to take care of yourself in the midst of everything going on in your life
- Handling when we do push ourselves too far
Early on in the pandemic Sarah wanted to reach parents outside of her classroom of kids. So she created an amazing free Virtual Summit on "empowering kids." I felt so honored to be included in the expert speakers for that summit!
Sarah's second free online series, Kids' Healthy Bodies, starts on February 15!
(Yay! Click here to sign up!)
In our conversation today Sarah shares on how this upcoming free Virtual Summit will help you get a handle on talking to kids about potentially tough topics like their own bodies, sex, consent, and stopping child sexual abuse.
I'm honored to be a part of this series as well, talking about what to do if you have been the victim of sexual abuse… and you are now raising kids.
There will be experts on all kinds of topics around children and their healthy bodies, so be sure to sign up!
I know you're going to love today's conversation… If you'd like to see us visually, in addition to listening, you can find the video for this conversation by clicking https://weturnedoutokay.com/356
I hope you find our talk super helpful!
Cheers!
Karen
Links from today's conversation:
Click here to sign up for Sarah Scheldt's upcoming Free Virtual Summit on Kids' Healthy Bodies – I'm one of the expert speakers, so I know how awesome this series is going to be.
Click here for the Yo-Yo Ma documentary, Distant Echoes, on the time that Ma spent with the Bush People of the Kalahari Desert, learning how they make music – and meaning.