Surprise! Bonus episode on how to have a happy Thanksgiving!
Special thanks to Graham Smith and Kirsten Dunlap of the Welcome Home podcast, and Desirae Endres of Minimal-ish, for sharing in this edition of We Turned Out Okay…
We are connecting our shows, each of us with a "Best Thanksgiving Day Ever" in a pod hop, similar to the blog hops of old!
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(I literally don't even mention this in today's episode, but I wanted you to be aware of it in case you were interested : )
To have your best Thanksgiving day ever, you must deliberately focus in – choose – what you want more of.
How do you have a happy Thanksgiving? It'll depend on your focus.
Today I share 4 ways I'm thinking about, 4 things I'm choosing. Maybe you'll want to focus on them too!
Links to the Welcome Home and Minimal-ish versions of how to have the best Thanksgiving Day ever, as well as all the links I talk about today, are available at:
weturnedoutokay.com/bestThanksgiving !
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As a preschool teacher I used to get asked all the time about when we would be teaching reading. Or writing.
I could see the stunned disbelief on parents' faces when we'd tell them "we don't teach formal academics, children learn everything they need through play."
It's patently awful, and damaging, to force kids into academic learning too soon.
And yet it's done all the time.
In this episode we discuss why, and what to do about it.
Plus in Parenting News:
I have been getting a lot out of the Live Above the Noise podcast, and so I want to highlight that for parenting news this week!
Join us!
(Links to everything talked about in this episode, plus a cheat sheet about the ideas we discussed, at weturnedoutokay.com/305 : )
Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough!
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"Fortunately the children have no words to define the panic and anger they feel at constant violations of natural order and sequence fobbed off on them as quality in education." – Jon Taylor Gatto, Dumbing Us Down
Everyone likes to know what is going on, we like to have some context in our lives.
So do our kids! In this installment of our "How to stop school from screwing up your child" series, we discuss what aspects of school can sew confusion in children, how detrimental that truly is, and what we can do about it.
Cheat sheet on helping kids feel secure, sure of themselves – as well as the key links that come up in today's episode – are available at weturnedoutokay.com/304
Plus in Parenting News:
This fantastic documentary about the life of Fred Rogers. As I share here, I couldn't understand why it would be rated PG-13. And then I started watching it.
(Here is the newsletter I wrote about this documentary: How I frightened my three-year-old.)
Ninja parents: I mention in today's Parenting News segment that I just created a forum post in NPC inviting you to share a piece of news that you would like to see featured in this space. Click here to read the post, and to share your Parenting News!
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Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough!
Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then
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We talk with the Mindful Mama Mentor, Hunter Clarke-Fields, in this episode of We Turned Out Okay!
Hunter is a parent coach who found real solutions to her own anger and frustration with meditation and mindfulness.
She is a force for good, and I am so excited to bring her on the show!
The title of this episode was very nearly "Mindfulness: A Cool Parental Brain Hack," which is how today's guest characterizes this state of mind in the latter part of our conversation.
I love this idea, that mindfulness can help us wrap our brain better around child-rearing and everything that comes with it.
I hope you get tons out of this conversation with Hunter Clarke-Fields, of the Mindful Mama Podcast. I know I did!
Plus in Parenting News:
I plan to be at an event that might interest you, if you can be at the Newton Community Farm in Newton Massachusetts on Saturday, November 9: A movie screening, and author signing!
Ken Danford, author of Learning is Natural, School is Optional, a book I am currently reading and loving, will be on hand to sign copies! And us attendees also get to see a movie about self-directed learning and how cool it is.
Hope to see you there! (Click here to sign up for the event : )
And we talk about social-emotional learning in schools, and how it's positively impacting not just the kids, but their families, teachers, administrators, and guidance counselors.
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Past editions have included remaining calm even if your kids are throwing dirt at each other, and helping when your child is frightened.
Useful stuff.
Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly so it zooms right into your inbox each week!
Here is the link to this episode: weturnedoutokay.com/303
Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough!
Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then
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"This morning we were reading a space book and [my three-year-old] was talking about how he was going to kill the astronauts. Aggressive talk really freaks me out."
When one of the parents I mentor in the Ninja Parenting Community posted this recently, I knew that you might be hearing "aggressive talk" with your child as well.
Why DO kids seem to talk and think so much about death, and killing?
We get into that today, and I share 3 ways you can address what might seem an unhealthy obsession with the macabre.
Plus in Parenting News:
We discuss this recent Boston Globe article, about young schoolchildren not being given enough time to eat their lunch, the problems parents are seeing as a result, and what they are doing to try to make it better.
Also! I plan to be at an event that might interest you, if you can be at the Newton Community Farm in Newton Massachusetts on Saturday, November 9: A movie screening, and author signing!
Ken Danford, author of Learning is Natural, School is Optional, a book I am currently reading and loving, will be on hand to sign copies! And us attendees also get to see a movie about self-directed learning and how cool it is.
Hope to see you there! (Click here to sign up for the event : )
Join us!
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Past editions have included remaining calm even if your kids are throwing dirt at each other, and helping when your child is frightened.
Useful stuff.
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Access the cheat sheet on the three ways to help when your child seems overly excited by death and killing; plus links to everything we talk about today, by clicking weturnedoutokay.com/302
Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough!
Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then
Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.
There are lots of reasons why we want our kids to become independent, in their actions and their thinking. (If for no other reason than, when our kids are independent, we do less for them. This means we are happier, and also it helps help our children understand the joys of being part of a system in which we all work together.)
Today's episode is about how, if we're not careful, we might be teaching in the opposite.
Today we discuss the possibility that simply attending school could make our children dependent on others for their intellectual and emotional well-being – and how truly dangerous that is.
Plus in Parenting News:
My latest book, Educating Happy Kids: 9 Ways to Help Your Children Learn What They Need to Know, is available for you to buy! And it has the CUTEST cover!
If you want to learn about educating your child in the way that will help them be happiest, click here and read this book.
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Past editions have included remaining calm even if your kids are throwing dirt at each other, and helping when your child is frightened.
Useful stuff.
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Access the cheat sheet on fostering your child's inner intellectual and emotional development, plus links to stuff discussed in this episode, by clicking weturnedoutokay.com/301
Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough!
Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then
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We're celebrating today, 300 episodes of We Turned Out Okay!
I am super excited to welcome back beloved guests Tricia Tomaso, preschool teacher extraordinaire, and Janine Halloran, coping skills expert, for a roundtable discussion talking about social and emotional learning, and if schools actually do screw up kids… And we're also answering your questions in this tri-centennial episode!
Join us!
Go to weturnedoutokay.com/300 for the bazillion links we discuss today…
And FYI Parenting News, and Magic Words for Parents, will be back next week.
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Past editions have included:
– How to get your child to take more responsibility
– How to teach your child social skills
– Under what circumstances, if any, you should let your child watch YouTube.
Useful stuff.
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Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough!
Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then
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"I am still just so scared these challenges are going to last forever, and school and daily life will always be a struggle. It's so hard to see the stuff other kids can do that [my three-year-old] just can't."
If this lament – if these fears – sound familiar, I hope today's episode will help.
Raising children is a hard job, especially when you're worried about a child's behavior, and if it's normal or not.
In this episode we've got 5 ways for you to feel better about the bad behavior, and how you're doing as a parent!
Plus in Parenting News:
A wonderful, funny, sweet TED talk by comedian Julia Sweeney on her chat with her eight-year-old about the birds and the bees.
Watch it – without the kids around, at least at first – to determine if it might be useful to you, when it's time for you to have that same talk. And also to smile.
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Past editions have included:
– How to remain calm even if your kids are throwing dirt at each other
– A tool to help you consistently get good behavior from your children
– How to teach your child social skills
Useful stuff.
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- Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you stay sane while raising your kiddos.
Read more about the 5 ways to feel better (mentioned above), and check out the links for this episode, by clicking weturnedoutokay.com/299
Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough!
Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then
Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.
This episode almost didn't make it.
Not because I don't think it is wicked important. I do think that.
But because I worried about hurting your feelings.
Ultimately (as you'll hear in the first five minutes or so) I decided to bring it to you, because from everything I'm seeing, school is broken.
Systemically.
In the long-term, I hope we can work together to fix it.
But in the short-term, we need to make sure that it's not screwing up our kids.
Plus in Parenting News: This TED talk by Allison Legerwood, "A Simple Trick to Improve Positive Thinking." Much-needed and much appreciated!
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- Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you remain sane while raising your kiddos.
Past editions have included:
– How to remain calm even if your kids are throwing dirt at each other
– A free tool you can use to create order from the chaos of your busy week
– How to teach your child social skills
Useful stuff.
Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly so it zooms right into your inbox each week!
- Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you remain sane while raising your kiddos.
Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, and an incredible resource she has created to help your child handle it when the going gets tough!
Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then
Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.
(Here is the link to the show notes for this post: weturnedoutokay.com/298)
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But only by joining before October 1!
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In this bonus We Turned Out Okay episode I offer 3 tools to help you cope with your child's aggressive, bad behavior:
- The first helps you put your child's behavior in perspective so it does not overwhelm you
- The second helps you create the best conditions for positive behavior from your child
- The third helps you feel good about your parenting journey
I hope you find it helpful!
Click here for the show notes for this episode, which include the video version of today's episode, a full transcript, and the aforementioned fancy-pants button so that you can join the Ninja Parenting Community at the Friends and Family membership rate!
I am super excited to bring you a conversation with two of the most beloved people in podcasting, Biz Ellis and Theresa Thorn of One Bad Mother!
Take note: there WILL be swears, so listen away from your kiddos…
Also I totally mess up in describing a genius moment of my own! (I guess that's a fail at a genius moment : )
So in the preshow I try to rectify that.
Biz and Theresa are such generous people that, while I'm sure they were looking at each other with extremely confused "why is this a genius moment?" looks on their faces, they pressed on and shared so much amazing support for you.
For me.
For us.
For any parent who feels shamed, unappreciated, like a monumental screwup.
Biz and Theresa want you to know: you're doing a great job!
And I want you to know: they are right <3
Watch my video on what to do when your young child is super aggressive, and how to keep your cool when the going gets tough, by clicking
weturnedoutokay.com/parentingtools
Click here for the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group, where I took questions for Biz and Theresa – and where you can ask questions of future guests!
(It's also where I do a Facebook live every Monday called Magic Words for Parents, sharing a quick word or phrase for you to take into your parenting week : )
Plus in Parenting News: My new favorite TED talk is called "Where joy hides and how to find it." It's amazing, and illustrates a factor that's crucial to enjoying family life.
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Past editions have included:
– How to remain calm even if your kids are throwing dirt at each other
– A free tool you can use to create order from the chaos of your busy week
– How to teach your child social skills
Useful stuff.
Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly so it zooms right into your inbox each week!
- Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you remain sane while raising your kiddos.
Click weturnedoutokay.com/297 for lots of links from our conversation!
Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, and an incredible resource she has created to help your child handle even the biggest feelings!
Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then
Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.
So, today's Parenting News segment makes me cry, those mushy, parenty, happy/sad tears. You know the ones. That's coming up in today's break.
Also! Join my private coaching community for just $1 for your whole first 30 days!
Get the support you need to help your child – or yourself – through the huge challenges that parenting can bring.
This is for a limited time, only through September 30, because of a technical screwup. Listen to the break for more on this.
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If it hasn't happened already,
there will likely come a day when your child says or does something super cringe-worthy.
How will you handle it?
Listen in to today's episode, to learn how to handle it best!
Plus in Parenting News:
Recently The Wall that Heals, a moving model of the Vietnam War Memorial in Washington, DC, came to my area. And while it may seem like a peculiar thing to feature in the Parenting News segment, I believe it's relevant. I share why in today's break.
Also, in this episode I share about the free guide on "How to handle every temper tantrum."
Click weturnedoutokay.com/handle-tantrums-now to get the guide : )
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Past editions have included:
– How to remain calm even if your kids are throwing dirt at each other
– How to get your child to take more responsibility
– A specific formula for handling temper tantrums
Useful stuff.
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- Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you remain sane while raising your kiddos.
Click weturnedoutokay.com/296 for show notes which include a cheat sheet of how to handle it when your child embarrasses you in public.
Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, and an incredible resource she has created to help your child handle even the biggest feelings!
Click copingskillsforkids.com/coping-cue-cards to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.
If the anxiety is hyped up in your home right now, for kids and/or for you, hopefully you'll find this episode helpful!
It even includes a discussion, during the break, about how to deal with our own parental anxieties. I read listener Cathy's letter, sharing about her own anxiety, which starts off the thinking about what we can do to feel less anxious ourselves.
Plus in Parenting News:
I completely screw up a quote from Dr. Elven Semrad in the second half of this episode… Which led me on a search to find out more about this beloved psychotherapist. In Parenting News I bring you this short article, sharing some of his other quotes and thoughts on life.
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Past editions have included:
– How to remain calm even if your kids are throwing dirt at each other
– How to get your child to take more responsibility
– How to teach your child social skills
Useful stuff.
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- Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you remain sane while raising your kiddos.
Click weturnedoutokay.com/295 for show notes which include a cheat sheet of the 10 ways to alleviate anxiety, and tons of links!
Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, and an incredible resource she has created to help your child handle even the biggest feelings!
Click copingskillsforkids.com/coping-cue-cards to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.
Are you, as a parent, coming to view American healthcare as a soul-sucking showstopper of happiness?
Don't despair. Today's guest, Dan Weissmann, has some great ideas and advice!
Dan sparked a movement when he began a podcast about the many ways average Americans - confronting a healthcare system that can be ruinous both financially, and healthwise - think of and approach family health and happiness.
The Arm and a Leg Podcast dives into some crazy stuff!
Listening to Dan's show you can learn about:
– A couple who discovered that their healthcare had unceremoniously dropped them just a few months before that child was due to arrive
– The story of how we got insulin, and how, due to high cost, people who rely upon it are becoming modern-day rebel cowboys, figuring out how to create it themselves
– Traveling Renaissance Faire folks who can teach you how to resolve disputes with your healthcare provider
Dan stops by today, to talk about how we got here and the true state of healthcare in America today.
Plus in Parenting News: We discuss the work of friend-of-the-podcast Devorah Heitner regarding what kids are really watching on YouTube, and how you can deal with it, in this article on her website. I also read her words from a recent Parenting Newsletter that I wrote on the dangers of YouTube for kids.
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Past editions have included:
– How to remain calm even if your kids are throwing dirt at each other
– How to get your child to take more responsibility
– How to teach your child social skills
Useful stuff.
Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly so it zooms right into your inbox each week!
Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, and an incredible resource she has created to help your child handle even the biggest feelings!
Click copingskillsforkids.com/coping-cue-cards to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.
Whether public school, charter school, private school, or homeschool, this time of year brings massive changes to lots of families' lives.
It's exciting, but it can also be stressful.
Today I want to help you stay more on the positive side of the exciting/stressful balance!
How are you feeling about the start of the new school year?
Today we discuss 4 ways to start the year off right.
Important Program Notes:
– In this episode you'll hear me talk about a Streamline Your Mornings workshop, that was to take place in the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group… Instead of that I have created an in-depth, 4-part series, each exploring one way to start the year off right!
Included in the fourth part, called "A free tool you can use to streamline your family's weekly schedule," you'll find the updated We Turned Out Okay Weekly Planner. (You'll hear me talk about the Facebook group at the end of this episode, as the place where you can find that tool. Instead, to make your life super easy, click here so you can read the newsletter, and download that free PDF.)
– Also! Educating Happy Kids: 9 Ways to Help Your Young Children Learn What They Need to Know is out in the world!
If you are a Ninja Parent: click here for the forum post where you can download your FREE PDF copy of my latest parenting book!
If you are not a member of the ninja parenting community, go to weturnedoutokay.com/books for your ecopy!
I'm so excited that it's done and you can read it!
– There's a moment in this episode where I credit author and researcher Gretchen Rubin with something author and researcher Laura Vanderkam did (I rectify this in the break, but did want to tell you about it here as well). Sorry for the confusion!
Click here for Gretchen Rubin's amazing book The Four Tendencies; and click here for Lara Vanderkam's website.
Plus in Parenting News: A podcast by one of We Turned Out Okay's beloved guests! I share about the Calm and Connected podcast by coping skills expert and LMHC Janine Halloran, and talk about how it will help you get this school year off to a great start.
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Past editions have included:
– These 4 ways to start the school year off right, expanded
– How to teach your child social skills
– Under what circumstances, if any, you should let your child watch YouTube.
Useful stuff.
Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly so it zooms right into your inbox each week!
Go to weturnedoutokay.com/293 for a cheat sheet on the 4 ways to start the school year off right, key links from this episode, free guides (on potty training, picky eating, and how to handle every temper tantrum), and lots more resources!
Also:
- Click here to join the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group, where every Monday I offer Magic Words for Parents, a quick word or phrase for you to take into your parenting week!
- Click here to learn more about working closely with me, either as a private coaching client or as a member of the Ninja Parenting Community
And thank you so much for listening!
"Learning" can mean different things to different people:
– Getting good grades
– Passing a test
– Reading, writing, coding, mathematics, etc.
But how do we get to the point where we know, and can demonstrate, our knowledge?
It all starts in early childhood.
Today we dive into how young children learn best.
Plus in Parenting News: As parents, we can't be all serious and big-business. Without some downtime, we can't keep going, in child-rearing, in outside-of-the-home jobs, or within ourselves.
I have been going through some pretty major burnout, and today in Parenting News, I share about a resource that has been making me feel way better: The Adventure Zone, in both podcast and graphic novel form. If this completely awesome, totally-not-for-kids sci-fi-fantasy thing is not for you, that is absolutely fine! But take this moment to find something that does get you the downtime enjoyment that you need.
Join us!
Go to weturnedoutokay.com/292 for a cheat sheet on the 3 ways kids learn best, key links from this episode, free guides (on potty training, picky eating, and how to handle every temper tantrum), and lots more resources!
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And thank you so much for listening!
Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, and an incredible resource she has created to help your child handle even the biggest feelings!
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Today's guest, Anna Seewald of the Authentic Parenting Podcast, experienced a truly traumatic event in her childhood, an earthquake in which she lost her mother.
In part because of this experience, she went on to become a therapist, a woman who has dedicated her life to helping others through their toughest moments.
"My true passion is to help children to thrive," she writes.
Today we discuss many ways to help your child to do exactly that.
I know you will get a lot out of this conversation. Many thanks to Anna Seewald for coming on We Turned Out Okay!
Plus in Parenting News: Back in July I got to be a guest on Anna's show! Extending on this theme about how childhood experiences shape us, I share that I was sexually assaulted at age 7.
This experience fundamentally changed my personality, and has had repercussions through all of my life. But here's the thing, while I would of course never wish something like this on anyone, not all the repercussions have been bad.
Click authenticparenting.com/185 to listen to our conversation.
Though certainly tough in parts, overall it's a hopeful, and I really hope helpful (hence the sharing as Parenting News) conversation.
Join us!
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- Click here to learn more about working closely with me, either as a private coaching client or as a member of the Ninja Parenting Community
And thank you so much for listening!
Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, and an incredible resource she has created to help your child handle even the biggest feelings!
Click copingskillsforkids.com/coping-cue-cards to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.
We have all been hit hard by the news recently. And if we, as adults, are feeling the strain and stress, it's a safe bet that our children feel it too.
How can you help?
In this bonus episode I offer five ways.
Helpful links:
Click here for episode 261 of We Turned Out Okay, my conversation with Maureen Healy (whose Bubble Breathing exercise I suggest in this episode.)
Click here for the link to the Eckerd College article about Marjorie Sanfilippo, whose study about kids and guns I talk about in this episode.
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Click there to help me wreck this podcast : )
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Today I am asking the questions:
- How can this show be better?
- How can it help you more?
- What do you like, what do you love, what do you wish was different?
A few months back, we passed 400,000 downloads of We Turned Out Okay.
400,000! That's almost half a million!
When I started the show more than four years ago, I couldn't even imagine 4000 downloads, never mind a hundred times that.
I felt, and still feel to this day, such gratitude to you. For getting us here, and most importantly for sticking with the show.
I do it for us. For anyone raising kids. Because I have been where you are. I totally know, from the inside, that raising kids and staying sane at the same time is a juggling act, and sometimes we feel like all the balls are falling down around us.
Let's wreck We Turned Out Okay, in the best way possible.
Here is the link to the survey I created asking those questions above.
Cheers!
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In this week's episode of We Turned Out Okay, we examine a parent's role in a child's education!
Lots of parents have no idea how to help their kiddos in learning how to read, write, do math, or code.
But these are the essential skills of the future.
How do we help our kids, when they're young, get ready for all that learning?
Find out by listening to this episode of We Turned Out Okay!
Plus in Parenting News: A really fascinating episode of Experiential Wisdom, all about lifelong learning and why it matters now, more than ever.
Join us!
Sign up for my Weekly Parenting Newsletter
- Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you remain sane while raising your kiddos!
Past editions have included:
– How to get your child to take more responsibility
– How to teach your child social skills
– Under what circumstances, if any, you should let your child watch YouTube.
Useful stuff.
Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly so it zooms right into your inbox each week!
Go to weturnedoutokay.com/289 for lots of key links mentioned in today's episode, for free guides (on potty training, picky eating, and how to handle every temper tantrum), and lots more resources!
Also:
- Click here to learn more about working closely with me, either as a private coaching client or as a member of the Ninja Parenting Community
And thank you so much for listening!
Do you ever feel like your family life is sliding in a direction you don't want? In today's episode you will hear how one mom, a coaching client of mine, worked with me to take control.
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Getting control over the direction her family is going has brought has meant many good things, including fun, fulfillment, and real joy.
Listen in as Jen, mother of 2 young girls, talks about what she's learned in our private coaching community, and how it has changed her life, and her family life.
Plus in Parenting News: the You Are Not So Smart Podcast did a recent episode on the super-famous Marshmallow Experiment, which has been used to predict how successful a child will be, based on their ability to delay gratification. I LOVE this podcast, which I actually started listening to because of another episode, and it is the subject of today's Parenting News because I think you would find it really helpful too.
Join us!
Go to weturnedoutokay.com/288 for a rundown of the HEART method of handling every temper tantrum, which comes up in this episode!
Also:
- Click here for Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, the book Jen mentions as essential reading in getting control of the direction her family was going
- Click here to learn more about working closely with me, either as a private coaching client or, like Jen, as a member of the Ninja Parenting Community
And thank you so much for listening!
Sign up for my Weekly Parenting Newsletter
- Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you remain sane while raising your kiddos!
Past editions have included:
– How to get your child to take more responsibility
– How to teach your child social skills
– Under what circumstances, if any, you should let your child watch YouTube.
Useful stuff.
Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly so it zooms right into your inbox each week!
How does one mom handle it, when she finds her daughters throwing dirt at each other?
(FYI: I'm taking your questions for an upcoming episode! What's on your mind about your kiddos right now? I'm a child development expert and parent coach, I'd love to help! Ask, and I'll address your question in our August 6 episode... I'm taking questions until Thursday, August 1 (which is when I'll record the episode.)
Go to weturnedoutokay.com/contact to ask your question : )
No matter the season, there's always an opportunity for kids to come into conflict with other kids.
Whether siblings, cousins, classmates or just somebody at the playground, mean words, pushing, and other acts of frustration or aggression abound.
So, do we parents just have to live with it, put up with the bickering and hard feelings?
Nope!
This masterclass is a distillation of three months' worth of work in the private, online community I run for parents of young children.
During April, May, and June 2019 we dove headfirst into the problems real parents really experience, and how to alleviate it when kids aren't getting along.
Today I'm bringing you behind the scenes, directly into the Ninja Parenting Community, sharing the information you need to help your kids actually get along!
Some of these ideas may seem unconventional, and likely (unless you are a member of NPC) they are new to you, but they REALLY work.
In fact we finish out with a success story! How does one mom handle it, when she finds her daughters throwing dirt at each other?
Find out in this episode of We Turned Out Okay!
Plus in Parenting News: This article in the Atlantic, on Fred Rogers (of Mister Rogers' Neighborhood) and how he approached speaking with children, is one of those articles I wanted to hug to my chest <3
I share why in today's Parenting News segment.
Plus I read my recent review of Audrey Monke's wonderful book, Happy Campers!
Join us!
Sign up for my Weekly Parenting Newsletter
- Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you: remain sane while raising your kiddos!
Past editions have included:
– How to get your child to take more responsibility
– How to teach your child social skills
– Under what circumstances, if any, you should let your child watch YouTube.
Useful stuff.
Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to receive my Weekly Parenting Newsletter, so it zooms right into your inbox each week!
Go to weturnedoutokay.com/287 for:
- Notes from this Masterclass on How to Help Kids Get Along with Other Kids
- The Masterclass video
- Links to free guides on potty training, handling every temper tantrum, and more
And thank you so much for listening!
Today's episode is brought to you by…
You, if you have purchased one of my parenting books! I write books that help parents truly enjoy family time, by sharing tools and formulas that you can use to change your child's behavior from bad to good, and also that help you feel happy inside.
Go to weturnedoutokay.com/books to check them out!
In today's bonus podcast episode I answer WTOO Facebook group member Jennifer's question about how to get kids to take responsibility without continually hovering around them and "politely interrupting" in order to get kids to clean up their messes.
I put this in the context of a roadmap, which includes three crucial steps to independence, responsibility, and guilt-free parenting.
(BTW: I share about a conversation I had recently on a wonderful show, Authentic Parenting. Click here for Anna Seewald's conversation with me, in episode 185 of her show, all about how our childhoods impact our whole lives. (You should listen away from kiddos, there are some adult themes in this episode.)
Thank you so much for listening!
I'm offering a special program, "How to do less for your kids, and feel good about it: 21 days to Independence," which starts this coming Monday, July 15.
Everything I cover in this episode – and it's a lot! – has been a starting point.
This 3-week workshop is tailored specifically to your needs, very personalized (even includes videos that I make just for you each week!) and so helpful as you work to get your child to be independent and responsible.
Registration ends Sunday July 14, if spots don't run out first! (I am strictly limiting enrollment, and there are just a few spots left now.)
Go to weturnedoutokay.com/indy to learn more about the program, watch a video overview, and to sign up!
If you're listing after Sunday, July 14, 2019, and you want to learn how to get your child to be independent and responsible, I recommend that you join the private coaching community I run for parents.
Go to weturnedoutokay.com/workwithme to learn more!
What are the factors that matter – like, REALLY matter, over the long haul – versus those that don't, in your child's education?
(Quick heads-up: starting this coming Monday, July 15 I'm offering a program to help you do less for your child, and feel good about it! It's called "21 Days to Independence for your child… and for you."
In these 3 weeks we will cover: how to not be your child's personal entertainer; how to stop hovering, for your benefit AND theirs; how to help them resolve conflicts, and more! The program takes place right in your inbox, so it's super convenient as well as helpful.
Because I'm working closely with each participant, space is limited, and spots are filling up! Click weturnedoutokay.com/indy to learn more and register.)
I'm sure you'll agree that getting a kid's education right is critical.
It's not just critical while they're small. Screwing up a kid's education can impact their whole lives.
And yet, it happens every day, when even well-intentioned and goodhearted people focus on the wrong stuff.
Because you listen to this show, I know that you are well-intentioned and goodhearted. So I'm helping you focus on the right stuff today.
Find out what really matters in your child's education in this episode of We Turned Out Okay!
Plus in Parenting News: In this recent Education Weekly article, the idea of "growth mindset versus fixed mindset" is re-examined… We investigate in this week's Parenting News segment.
Join us!
Go to weturnedoutokay.com/286 for:
- A cheat sheet on what's crucial to include in your child's education
- What does not matter.. what you can (and should) leave out of your young child's education
- Links to free guides on potty training, handling every temper tantrum, and more
And thank you so much for listening!
The show is sponsored this week by Julian Coffee, a unique and amazing coffee that comes from a family farm in Puerto Rico and that will help you start your day off right! Listen to today’s episode for the code that will get you 10% off when you go to juliancoffeepr.com or Julian Coffee’s page in Amazon.
Hey my friend! Next week I'm teaching a FREE workshop on independence, for your child and you, in the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group: click this link to take part or scroll down right here in your podcatcher to find out more!
When I first saw How to Raise a Boy,
the book today's guest, Michael Reichert, PhD, wrote, I knew I was in for a treat. Dr. Reichert 's writing is a skillful blend of personal stories and relevant, amazing research, and before I knew it I was highlighting, marking pages with Post-it notes, and pumped to speak with Dr. Reichert!
And, our conversation does not disappoint.
If you've got questions about:
- Your son turning into a "mama's boy"
- How to (in the words of one of our WTOO Facebook group members) "empower boys to be their best selves without being jerks"
- Or even if you have questions about why – if you're raising girls and not boys – you should care;
You'll find this conversation relevant and compelling.
I'm so thankful to Dr. Reichert for coming on the show today, and I hope you enjoy our conversation, and learn from it, as much as I did.
Plus in Parenting News: I've just learned of an amazing new resource for parents, the Revive Show, a live Internet radio show, and you need to hear about it too. I learned of it when I was invited on as a guest, and I think you will love the show!
Join us!
Go to weturnedoutokay.com/285 for:
- A cheat sheet on highlights from this wonderful conversation
- Key links we talk about in this episode
- The video of the week: OFF this week for the July 4 holiday, returning July 11, so hang in there : )
And thank you so much for listening!
I am teaching a FREE, weeklong workshop on how to get your child to be more independent so they don't have to rely on you!
We will address: how to stop being a helicopter parent, how to get kids to amuse themselves, independence with potty training and hygiene, food issues, and more, so join us if you need help with any of this!
This free workshop takes place all next week, July 8-12, in the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group… Click here to join the group!