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What kind of hijinks did you get up to as a kid? Did you climb trees? Did you run around outside barefoot? Did you eat raw cookie dough? Maybe you wanted to do these and other crazy things, but you weren't allowed… Let me ask you this: what if your children wanted to? Would you let them? If you hesitate there, well, you're in the right place. The We Turned Out Okay podcast is where we learn the hows and whys of hovering less and enjoying our young children more. You get to learn from host Karen Lock Kolp's mistakes, but especially from the successes of her guests. Each helpful, lively conversation illustrates why this show really is "The Modern Guide to Old-School Parenting."
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Apr 23, 2019

One of the most concerning things for us parents is that our kids will not have any friends.
Maybe because we all remember that feeling of being lonely, or singled out.

We can feel kind of helpless at the same time. You may be feeling like either the process is so intuitive that you can't teach it, or you may even be thinking "I don't have that many friends, who am I to be trying to teach my child how to make friends?"

In this episode I deconstruct this process.
I offer 4 ways to help your child make friends.

ALSO in Parenting News: a member of the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group makes the New York Times! For something really special!

Take a listen!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/275 for:

  • A cheat sheet of the 4 ways to help your child make friends
  • Links to a whole bunch of good stuff including to some of the best conversations we've ever had on WTOO
  • The video of the week: "4 Ways to help your young child make friends"

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

Today I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
  • Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter!

Live Q&A and Open House Tour

Ever wished you could check out the private coaching community that I run for parents of young children?
Do you have questions about if it could work for you, even in your busy, insane life and with whatever technical skills you possess (especially if you feel like they're not very good)?
You're in luck! On THIS coming Thursday, April 25 at 1 PM EST, I am throwing open the doors to the Ninja Parenting Community!
I'm taking you right inside, and showing you:
– What our members love about it
– How the community helps parents turn family time into "the best time of the day"
– And I'm taking questions too!

It's free… I'm so excited to bring you in and show you around!
It's live… But even if you can't be there live, signing up gets you the replay so you can rewatch as many times as you like.
It's where my heart and soul is… because I get to work closely with so many amazing parents.

Don't miss out on discovering this secret to happy parenting…
Click weturnedoutokay.com/tour to sign up!

Apr 16, 2019

As life partners, we all have some disagreements.
But what if you feel like your disagreements are interfering in family life?
That's what this episode is all about, so if you're worrying about any of this you're in the right place!
I've got 3 ways to get your spouse on the same page as you are.

Plus: in Parenting News, we consider coding as one of the academic 3Rs.
Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/274 for:

  • A cheat sheet of the 3 ways discussed today
  • Links to a whole bunch of good stuff, including the key links talked about today and free potty training and temper tantrum free guides
  • The video of the week: "My spouse isn't on board with how I'm raising our kids"

And thank you so much for listening!

Live Q&A and Open House Tour

Ever wished you could check out the private coaching community that I run for parents of young children?
Do you have questions about if it could work for you, even in your busy, insane life and with whatever technical skills you possess (especially if you feel like they're not very good)?
You're in luck! On Thursday, April 25 at 1 PM EST I am throwing open the doors to the Ninja Parenting Community!
I'm taking you right inside, and showing you:
– What our members love about it
– How the community helps parents turn family time into "the best time of the day"
– And I'm taking questions too!

It's free… I'm so excited to bring you in and show you around!
It's live… But even if you can't be there live, signing up gets you the replay so you can rewatch as many times as you like.
It's where my heart and soul is… because I get to work closely with so many amazing parents.

Don't miss out on discovering this secret to happy parenting…
Click weturnedoutokay.com/tour to sign up!

Apr 9, 2019

A conversation with Audrey Monke is always welcome, even more so when she's written a book that can fix so many of the worries we confront on a daily basis. Which this one totally is!
If you're worried about:
 – How to keep your kids close while giving them their independence
 – If they'll ever make friends, and what might happen to them if they don't
 – How in heck they will develop the skills necessary to make it in this world
You are going to LOVE our conversation!

Also: included in this episode is the first installment of Parenting News, a segment highlighting one news item that seems worthy of your attention.
Today's is all about young boys and Fortnite, and if you should be concerned about video-game addiction.
Got some news that you want me to bring up in a future Parenting News? Click here and let me know!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/273 for:

  • A cheat sheet of ideas from our conversation
  • Links, including a special one to Audrey's book, Happy Campers
  • The video of the week: "How to help your child make a friend"

And thank you so much for listening!

Live Q&A and Open House Tour

Ever wished you could check out the private coaching community that I run for parents of young children?
Do you have questions about if it could work for you, even in your busy, insane life and with whatever technical skills you possess (especially if you feel like they're not very good)?
You're in luck! On Thursday, April 25 I am throwing open the doors to the Ninja Parenting Community!
I'm taking you right inside, and showing you:
– What our members love about it
– How the community helps parents turn family time into "the best time of the day"
– And I'm taking questions too!

It's free… I'm so excited to bring you in and show you around!
It's live… But even if you can't be there live, signing up gets you the replay so you can rewatch as many times as you like.
It's where my heart and soul is… because I get to work closely with so many amazing parents.

Don't miss out on discovering this secret to happy parenting…
Click weturnedoutokay.com/tour to sign up!

Apr 2, 2019

If you've ever struggled with less-than-quality childcare, whether in daycare or in a school setting, today's episode is for you!

Because you are not alone. I've been working closely with people whose childcare providers do inscrutable things – one mom tells of an "aggression journal" her 3-year-old son's childcare teachers are keeping about him! – and another who found her most recent parent-teacher conference frightening and overwhelming.

Which is why today I'm bringing you, in audio format, the class I taught just last week, all about "How to get quality childcare."

During this master class I share:
1) The three most important keys to finding the best childcare
2) One crucial factor that can hold you back from getting quality childcare
3) The questions you should - and should not - ask potential and current childcare providers
4) An Open House Tour of the private coaching community where quality childcare has been our in-depth focus for the last 3 months
5) A Case Study of one class attendee, Amanda, and her 3-year-old son's struggles with nap time at daycare

I hope it's super helpful as your child moves out into the wider world, in daycare, preschool, or school!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/272 for:

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

Today I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
  • Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter!
Mar 26, 2019

What's your go-to approach for getting work done?

Do you view something difficult as an exciting challenge, or a way to prove to yourself and others – once again – how crummy you are at difficult stuff?

Today, we look at how our own mindset impacts our children's eventual success.

Take a listen!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/271 for:

  • A cheat sheet on getting your best mindset for your child's success
  • Key links from today's episode
  • The video of the week: "What is a good mindset for learning? How to get my child the best educational mindset"

And thank you so much for listening!

How to Get Quality Childcare: Free Online Class!

Learn:
– The keys to finding the best child care for your young child
– To avoid one crucial factor that can derail your efforts to find good childcare
– Which questions to ask – and which not too – to assure your child thrives in others' care

We cover this and more in the FREE online class I'm teaching on Thursday, March 28!
Sign up today – even if you can't be there live, the replay will be available for several days after.

Get the best child care for your kiddos by taking this class, for free! Sign up here and I will see you on March 28: )

Mar 19, 2019

You may have heard that creativity is important to our children's developing minds.
But have you ever thought about how important creativity is for yourself?

Today's guest, Dan Blank, not only helps us understand how important it is… He helps us figure out ways to incorporate creativity into our busy parenting lives.

I hope you enjoy today's conversation, whether you heard it when it was originally broadcast about 18 months ago, or if this is your first listen. Cheers!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/270 for:

  • Favorite ideas from our conversation
  • Dan's answer to a question that didn't make it into the interview
  • The video of the week: Off this week, returning Thursday, March 28

And thank you so much for listening!

How to Get Quality Childcare: Free Online Class!

Learn:
– The keys to finding the best child care for your young child
– To avoid one crucial factor that can derail your efforts to find good childcare
– Which questions to ask – and which not too – to assure your child thrives in others' care

We cover this and more in the FREE online class I'm teaching on Thursday, March 28!
Sign up today – even if you can't be there live, the replay will be available for several days after.

Get the best child care for your kiddos by taking this class, for free! Sign up here and I will see you on March 28: )

Mar 12, 2019

Last summer, the two-year-old son of a Ninja Parenting Community member was in a car accident. Thankfully no one was injured. But the car was totaled.

And this little boy kept asking the same question, over and over:
"Why did Daddy crash Daddy's car?" The accident was not Daddy's fault. But you couldn't convince the boy of that!

Everyone just wanted to move on.

But this little boy struggled to do that.

Maybe your child hasn't recently been in a car accident, and so this isn't the question that keeps getting asked.

But I bet, if you've got a toddler or preschooler, or even an elementary school kid, you know this phenomenon very well.

Today: what to do about it, when your child asks the same question again and again!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/269 for:

  • A cheat sheet on how to handle it when your child keeps asking the same question over and over, and it's driving you nuts
  • Key links from today's episode
  • The video of the week: Off this week, returning March 28

And thank you so much for listening!

How to Get Quality Childcare: Free Online Class!

Learn:
– The keys to finding the best child care for your young child
– To avoid one crucial factor that can derail your efforts to find good childcare
– Which questions to ask – and which not too – to assure your child thrives in others' care

We cover this and more in the FREE online class I'm teaching on Thursday, March 28!
Sign up today – even if you can't be there live, the replay will be available for several days after.

Get the best child care for your kiddos by taking this class, for free! Sign up here and I will see you on March 28: )

Mar 5, 2019

If you've been listening to our Successful, Fulfilled Kids series (of which this is part 7), I know you're implementing some great tactics, like making sure your child does chores, and doing something besides "parenting."
But today's episode gets into a concept that is really key.
It's a mindset shift that parents need to make, if only to show our kids what is possible.

Yup: we've finally come to the topic of Grit.

Listen in to find out why it's important and how you can make sure your children have it!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/268 for:

  • A cheat sheet on Grit
  • Key links from today's episode
  • The video of the week: Off this week! Returning March 28

And thank you so much for listening!

How to Get Quality Childcare: Free Online Class!

Learn:
– The keys to finding the best child care for your young child
– To avoid one crucial factor that can derail your efforts to find good childcare
– Which questions to ask – and which not too – to assure your child thrives in others' care

We cover this and more in the FREE online class I'm teaching on Thursday, March 28!
Sign up today – even if you can't be there live, the replay will be available for several days after.

Get the best child care for your kiddos by taking this class, for free! Sign up here and I will see you on March 28: )

Feb 26, 2019

Wondering what to do when:
– Your child fills the pull up or leaks through, every single night, despite being potty trained during the day?
– You are stuck – at least for a little while – with subpar childcare?
– Your child is being picked on due to intolerance?

We answer these questions and more, in today's episode!
I'm so excited to bring you another round of Ask the Experts with Tricia Tomaso!

[FYI: in the break I mention having One Question for you… Click here to hear the bonus episode about the question, and click here to answer the question!]

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/267 for:

  • A cheat sheet on the questions and answers we share in this episode
  • Key links from today's episode
  • The video of the week: "How to help your child if they're being picked on or bullied"

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
  • Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter!
Feb 19, 2019

What's your biggest parenting challenge?
I really want to help you with it! (For context, listen to this recent quickie bonus episode : )
Click weturnedoutokay.com/contact to go to my contact page and share what's toughest for you as a parent. Thank you sooooo much!

How do you react when your child makes a mistake, does something wrong, mouths off?

If you respond to bad behavior with lesson-teaching/consequences mode engaged – in other words, if you have "zero tolerance" for your child's transgressions – you're doing your child a disservice.

Even worse, you're doing your relationship with your young child a disservice.

That's what this episode posits, anyway. Take a listen and see if you agree!

PS The title and subject of today's episode came from conversations with my therapist.

"We can't have zero tolerance when we're talking about kids," he often says; "zero tolerance is for submarines."

If these two concepts seem completely unrelated to you, and your daily life with your young child, I encourage you to listen in to today's episode! All will become clear : )

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/266 for:

  • A cheat sheet on the 4 ways kids are not like submarines – and what works better than "zero tolerance" when they do something wrong
  • To share your biggest parenting challenge, and/or sign up for one of our free guides
  • The video of the week: "How to handle your child's bad behavior"

And thank you so much for listening!

Feb 15, 2019

I am struggling with something, and it would mean so much to me to hear from you about it…
I hope you'll answer me just one question, which I ask in this episode.

You can answer my question in 2 ways:

Click weturnedoutokay.com/contact and respond right on my contact page; or

Email me directly– I share my email address in this episode

Thank you SO much!

Feb 12, 2019

What difference, you might be wondering, can it possibly make to my kids if I have good relationships with other grown-ups?

Actually, it matters quite a bit.

In this installment of the Raising Successful Kids series we talk about the impact of our relationships, including with our spouses and life-partners, on the eventual fulfillment and happiness of our children.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/265 for:

  • A cheat sheet on the ideas in this episode
  • Key links from our conversation, including the resources I share, to help you understand this idea and move forward with it
  • The video of the week: "How does my relationship affect my kids?"

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
  • Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter!
Feb 5, 2019

I know it's difficult to imagine your child as a teen or young adult. 

But it will happen, and sooner than you think. If you just can't imagine it – if it even makes you a little frightened to think of – today's guest will inspire hope and excitement in you (he did for me : )

Today I'm excited to share a conversation with a guy who works with teenagers to help them achieve their goals, Blake Boles of the Off Trail Learning Podcast, UnschoolAdventures.com, and author of three excellent books for helping teens figure out what they really want out of life.

Hope you enjoy this glimpse into the future! Go to weturnedoutokay.com/264 for:

  • Links to Blake's book, podcast, and website (where you can sign up for his newsletter, Update from the Blake-O-Sphere, and which makes me do a little happy dance each time I see it in my inbox)
  • The video of the week: "From Toddler to Teen: What to Expect"

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
  • Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter!
Jan 29, 2019

Welcome to another episode on how to make it so our kids grow up into successful, fulfilled, happy adults!
In today's installment, we consider whether it's important that we parents work outside the home.
And we end up considering an even bigger, more mind-blowing question: how do we even define success and fulfillment?

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/262 for:

  • A cheat sheet on the 3 practicalities of raising successful kids
  • Key links that come up in this episode, including to a show that Ben and I are really loving (and which is relevant to today's episode)
  • The video of the week: "How can I raise an independent, successful child?"

Quick program note, I mention in the episode that, if I can during the break, I'll share more about the Harvard business school and professor Kathleen McGinn. I was not able to do that this week. However in the show notes I link to both both the business school and the professor, so feel free to read up further if you'd like!

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
  • Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter!
Jan 22, 2019

How can I stop my child from being so impulsive?
How can I stop her from hurting others with her bad behavior?
How can I stop him from alienating people because he's hitting, or spitting, or worse?

Sometimes it is scary how much anger and frustration our little kids have inside. And when it erupts, we can feel so powerless.

This week's We Turned Out Okay podcast episode guest, Maureen Healy, has written a book called The Emotionally Healthy Child, to help us deal with these aspects of our young children.

When I invited Maureen on the show, I knew she had written a wonderful book for us. A useful tool, helping us parents figure out how to get our kids' behavior to be more what we want to see.

But I was not prepared for the kind of depth that Maureen Healy brings to the conversation. This gentle, thoughtful woman can teach us all about what it means to be human, and how to truly connect with our loved ones, especially our children.

Hope you enjoy this conversation!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/261 for:

  • A cheat sheet of favorite ideas from our conversation
  • Key links from our conversation, including to Maureen's wonderful book, The Emotionally Healthy Child
  • The scoop on my latest book! One reviewer says of 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know: I love how much "Karen" is in these pages… I can foresee myself using these chapter titles as self-talk mantras to remind myself to get out of discipline mode ASAP; that conflicts are opportunities; and so on."
  • The video of the week: "Stop my young child being impulsive"

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
  • Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter!
Jan 15, 2019

So, I never actually use the word toxic in the whole episode… instead of that, I talk about balloon-poppers. A much more fun name, I'm sure you'll agree!
In this episode I share four ways that you can protect yourself against toxic people, a.k.a. balloon-poppers.

Which is really important, not just for your health, but for your child's as well.

In this early part of the year, where we have more of a chance to think on introspective things, I hope this episode helps you feel happier inside! Bonus that in the long run it will help your kids find success, fulfillment, and happiness too!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/260 for:

  • A cheat sheet on 4 ways to protect against toxic people
  • The scoop on my latest book! One reviewer says "10 Secrets Happy Parents Know is a practical and easy-to-digest guide that sets the groundwork for the kind of family life you want."
  • The video of the week: "How to avoid toxic people"

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
Jan 8, 2019

This episode starts off as a review of my 2018 goals, and how I did with them.
But then it takes a dramatic turn: I actually had to record the second half of the show more than once. Why? Because when I recorded the first time, I didn't have clarity.

So I renamed the episode, and re-recorded the second half, and now I hope it is much more helpful than the first version would've been!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/259 for:

  • A breakdown of the goals I had for 2018, and how I did with them
  • A look ahead at 2019, and why being clear on what you want is important – not just for you, but for your kiddos as well
  • The scoop on my latest book, just out! One reviewer says "If you're ready for communication and mutual respect to replace chaos and misbehavior, do yourself a favor and read 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know."
  • The video of the week: "Make 2019 a great year... with just one word"

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
Jan 1, 2019

Happy new year!!
As you climb out from underneath tinsel, and excess, and cranky kiddos, I wanted to share some success stories.
I hope to inspire you, right at the beginning of the year, by giving you some stories where things, well, turned out okay, to use the pun that I always swore I would never use (and have indeed not used until this very moment : )
So, today's is a re-broadcasted conversation, originally recorded way back in 2016, in which I spoke to dad and educator Erik Wagter. Erik's story is special: he and his wife are raising an autistic son, and early on they were told he would never lead anything like a normal life.
And they are helping him, every day, to lead a wonderful, if not completely normal, life. Besides, whose life is "normal"?
"Normal is just a setting on the washing machine" – one of my favorite quotes ever.

Also, I'm sharing two stories of success from our exclusive private coaching community, the Ninja Parenting Community.
Stories of parents just like you, and how they handled it when the going got tough.
I hope you find today's success stories episode inspiring and helpful!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/258 for:

  • Links to many resources I offer, including my parenting books and the Ninja Parenting Community, the online place where I help parents through their toughest challenges, so they can really enjoy family time
  • The video of the week: Off this week! Returning 1/10/19.

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
Dec 25, 2018

Let's just say it: at this time of year, we don't always get the best behavior from our kids.
They're overstimulated. They're out of routine. In many end-of-year traditions they are being showered with gifts.

This can make them forget that life is about so much more than receiving presents from everybody who walks through the door (or whose door they walk through.)

So, today I wanted to help you deal with the gimmes!

Listen for three ways to gently help your child step away from the gifts.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/257 for:

  • My cheat sheet on dealing with the gimmes
  • A free PDF that you can download called "Three principles of kids and gifts"
  • The scoop on my latest book, just out! One reviewer says "If you're ready for communication and mutual respect to replace chaos and misbehavior, do yourself a favor and read 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know."
  • The video of the week: "Teaching a child that it's better to give than to receive"

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
Dec 19, 2018

 

When a coaching client of mine recently

posted an article by today's guest in our Ninja Parenting Community forums, I was introduced to one of the great positive parenting forces of our time: Dr. Laura Markham.

As soon as I visited her Aha Parenting website, and read some of the advice Dr. Laura shares, I knew you needed to be introduced to her too!

Today our conversation gets into vulnerability, trust, and resiliency. Dr. Laura helps us really enjoy our lives, and our kids.

I hope our conversation helps you gain a better understanding of this whole parenting thing. It sure helped me!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/255 for:

  • Links to Dr. Laura's website, which contains tons of resources for you
  • Information on my latest book, 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know, officially out in the world!!
  • The video of the week: "How to get my kids to stop fighting with each other"

And thank you so much for listening!

Dec 18, 2018

I feel your pain about getting kids to do chores.

They whine, and complain, and with enough of that, we begin to ask ourselves "is this really necessary? I could have already had this done myself, and saved us all this trouble."

But if kids don't do chores, what happens? Are they any more or less likely to have a successful, fulfilled, happy life?

Today we dive into this topic. We explore the right chore mindset, and three practical steps you can take, regarding chores and your child.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/256 for:

  • My chore cheat sheet, explaining the mindset and practical tips to help you in the moment
  • The scoop on my latest book, just out! One reviewer says "If you're ready for communication and mutual respect to replace chaos and misbehavior, do yourself a favor and read 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know."
  • The video of the week: "How to have a well behaved child at a party"

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
Dec 4, 2018

HEADS UP: At the top of the show, we say we're going to tell you if we go into PG-13 territory. In the second half of this episode, I share about being sexually abused at age 7. You may want to listen away from your littles, or with headphones.

"Is it shyness or bad manners?" When a member of our private coaching community asked this question during a live members-only call recently, I knew I needed to get you a show about handling stranger anxiety.

We've got 12 ways for you to handle your child's stranger anxiety… and we talk about how stranger anxiety isn't necessarily a bad thing.

I hope this is a helpful episode as you head into the holiday season, and your young child is meeting lots of new people!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two wonderful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are quick-and-effective.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/254 for:

  • A cheat sheet on the 12 ways to handle stranger anxiety
  • Links to the articles I quote from today
  • The link to the WTOO Facebook page where Wednesday 12/12 I'm doing a Facebook live Ask Me Anything to kick off the launch of my latest book, 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know, officially out today!!
  • The video of the week: "My child is anxious around new people"

And thank you so much for listening!

Nov 27, 2018

Today I share how the stress I was under 7 1/2 years ago resulted in a lifelong tendon disorder.

I was so busy running our household and putting everyone else first, I did not pay attention to my health.

I really want you to learn from my mistake.

Today's show focuses on how our stress isn't just bad for us. It's bad for our kids, too.

We also dig into the stresses of "intensive" parenting (a.k.a. helicopter or lawnmower parenting). And as you'll see, that form of parenting stresses everybody out.

(Know what else stresses everybody out? Potty training, and temper tantrums… During today's break I share about a free guide I offer for each of these stressors:

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child)

In this episode I offer three ways for you to be less stressed, not just now as we get into the holiday season (and everyone is pretty well at the end of their rope) but about how you can be less stressed over the long haul.

It's Part 3 of the "how to raise successful, fulfilled, happy people" series, and I hope it helps you enjoy the time you spend with your littles!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/253 for:

  • A cheat sheet on the 3 ways you can alleviate stress
  • Links to the articles I quote from today
  • What's up in the We Turned Out Okay universe, including tons of free resources : )
  • The video of the week: "Good behavior at meals, good behavior at the park"

And thank you so much for listening!

Nov 21, 2018

Thanksgiving is supposed to be fun, right? It's time with family, one last deep breath before December's insanity.

But when our kids were small I used to worry.

It's such a big meal. It takes such preparations. And it goes on for such a long time… How could I keep my boys quiet and happy on this day?

Then, there were the issues of stranger anxiety, and of small kids in a crowded space, with lots of treasured knickknacks and plants for them to hurt or break "on accident"… How could I give them a sense of security, and everyone else the sense that "here's a kid who won't destroy everything in sight"?

In this bonus episode I give you 5 ways to alleviate these problems, just in time for tomorrow's celebrations!

I am SO thankful.

This is Ninja Parenting Community (NPC) member Jen, with her two little girls. Jen is a rockstar member of NPC! She brings not just great questions, but help and support for other members, a "parenting can be fun" sensibility, and also adorable pictures like this one. I am so grateful for Jen.

In this episode I share an announcement about something happening right now: the "I'm thankful" special, where you can join our exclusive parent coaching community for just $1 for the first month.

One member of the Ninja Parenting Community (NPC for short) recently shared in our forums:
"What a difference this has made!!!… I truly cannot thank you enough."

When she wrote those words I felt so grateful. To know that the work I do strengthens the bond between a parent and child; to know that I have expertise that brings families together?
Nothing feels better than that to me.

I am so thankful, and I want to share that gratitude with you.

If you've been thinking about jumping into NPC, but but you weren't sure that membership would be worthwhile, reread those words from NPC member Mama Llama above.

This is PJ Jonas and family; PJ, my guest in episode 173, shared so much about getting to the fun parts of family life. I'm so grateful for our conversation.

And then:

Imagine a December in which, when your young child acts up, you've got a place to come and get help right away.

Imagine bringing your kids to a family gathering without being fearful of what their behavior could be.

Imagine that instead of feeling gut-wrenching worry, instead of the guilt or sadness you feel when you shout or spank your little one, you could enjoy this special family time.

Then: click here to try NPC, for just $1, for your whole first month.

The "I'm grateful" special also includes a special discounted rate for every consecutive month you're in NPC (you can cancel at any time, so there's no risk)…

So make your dreams of happy family time a reality by clicking the link above!

(This offer ends the Thursday after Thanksgiving, Nov. 29. I know you don't want to miss out!
Click the link above today.)

Happy listening, and happy Thanksgiving!

Nov 20, 2018

I did a happy dance a few weeks ago when I read that American Academy of Pediatrics has revised its guidelines on spanking and corporal punishment. This 67,000-doctor organization is coming out strongly against spanking, humiliating, and frightening children as discipline.

Today I'm rebroadcasting my conversation with former AAP president, Dr. Benard Dreyer. Dr. Dreyer gave such wonderful advice for parents as we raise our kids, and to my surprise it's been more than 2 years since this interview first aired! Time flies.

In the preshow, before our conversation, I read from the newspaper article that had me doing my happy dance, "Spanking is harmful, ineffective, group says."

Hope you enjoy this episode, and that it helps you remember to keep your discipline positive!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/252 for:

  • The link to the article about the AAP's stance on spanking
  • What's up in the We Turned Out Okay universe, including tons of free resources : )
  • The video of the week: Off this week, returning after Thanksgiving

And thank you so much for listening!

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